The latest edition of St John’s Grammar School’s Learning Early Series addresses the common and often stress-inducing habit among parents of comparing their child with others.

The advice offered in this edition is that parents should embrace their child’s individuality and understand why intrinsic motivation is so important in their child’s development.

Parents of very young children can be forgiven for comparing their child’s development with his or her peers. Society places great pressure on both parents and children to succeed in a fast-moving world.

But as Jodie Benveniste discusses in this episode, there are ways for parents to recognise and embrace their child’s development.

Have you ever found yourself comparing your child with others?

  1. Threelos

    16th October 2014 at 1:03 pm,

    MoM Rewards: Threelos has a diamond MoM rewards level Threelos said:

    I really hate the way parents at my kids’ school obsess so much about grades in school reports and reading levels etc. Mostly it comes from a simple concern for their own kids’ development, but it sets up an unpelasant competitive dynamic that is unhealthy for the kids. All kids are unique and have their own talents.

  2. mom56842

    22nd May 2014 at 10:27 pm,

    MoM Rewards: Mrs Bucket (that's pronounced Bouquet) has a diamond MoM rewards level Mrs Bucket (that's pronounced Bouquet) said:

    The video bought up a really good point about comparing, basically we all do it as it’s a way of us determining how our children are progressing, makes sense as how else do we measure that.

    For me the comparing (in my head) started in our Mother’s Group and then again once our daughter first started school and then as she hit her stride the comparing vanished once I realised she was doing well and there was nothing to worry about.

    Comparing in the early stages sounds a fairly normal thing to do but something entirely different if it’s done in a jealous and competitive way – there’s a difference.

  3. nida saeed

    21st May 2014 at 11:27 pm,

    MoM Rewards: nida saeed has a diamond MoM rewards level nida saeed said:

    Yep I use to. With their siblings. They are very little and I think as they grow, we grow with them too . My MCHN always tells me don’t compare. Each child is different. and I am quite sure I won’t be comparing them in a few years or so :)

  4. mom57522

    16th May 2014 at 6:53 pm,

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    All kids learn and develop at their own pace.

  5. Happymum-2

    11th May 2014 at 6:36 pm,

    MoM Rewards: Happymum-2 has a diamond MoM rewards level Happymum-2 said:

    I never liked to compare my kids to others, each is unique

  6. 8th May 2014 at 10:08 am,

    MoM Rewards: cheezel has a diamond MoM rewards level cheezel said:

    I’ve really enjoyed the series

  7. Happymum-2

    7th May 2014 at 5:17 pm,

    MoM Rewards: Happymum has a diamond MoM rewards level Happymum said:

    another great story, I don’t compare my kids to anyone else

  8. catgrrl3

    6th May 2014 at 11:20 am,

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    great article , thanks for sharing

  9. shazzbot

    30th April 2014 at 1:49 pm,

    MoM Rewards: shazzbot has a diamond MoM rewards level shazzbot said:

    Thanks for sharing this, was a great read.

  10. 17th April 2014 at 11:03 pm,

    MoM Rewards: mariel has a diamond MoM rewards level mariel said:

    I think it’s ok to compare

  11. kylesnova

    14th April 2014 at 9:44 pm,

    MoM Rewards: kylesnova has a diamond MoM rewards level kylesnova said:

    Each of my kids are unique individuals, sometimes it’s tempting to compare them to others but then I remember I just want them to be the best that they can be, not somebody else’s best. <3

    1. ginoula5

      13th August 2014 at 11:19 am,

      MoM Rewards: ginoula5 has a diamond MoM rewards level ginoula5 said:

      I whole heartedly agree with you, it’s tempting yes to compare, but at the end of the day as you say they are individuals :)

  12. haldem337

    31st March 2014 at 11:08 pm,

    MoM Rewards: haldem337 has a diamond MoM rewards level haldem337 said:

    No. And I don’t want to ever fall into that awful habit. Every child is unique and special in their own way.

  13. alioop

    25th March 2014 at 4:46 pm,

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    Each child is unique snd has different strengths and weaknesses

  14. mummy liana

    22nd March 2014 at 11:45 pm,

    MoM Rewards: mummy liana has a diamond MoM rewards level mummy liana said:

    thanks for sharing was a good read

  15. jenny9761

    2nd March 2014 at 4:35 pm,

    MoM Rewards: jenny9761 has a diamond MoM rewards level jenny9761 said:

    It is difficult not to compare but I just have to be happy healthy kids

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