Do you ever feel like you’re not enough?

I was enjoying some me time the other night while my little one was blessedly asleep and I was watching a rather corny movie.

There was a section in the movie that really touched me, I thought it might have been due to the excessive amount of chocolate I had eaten, or maybe even the wine I was enjoying but then the next day it was still on my mind.

Do you ever feel like you’re not enough, no matter how hard you try? If you don’t then congrats and what’s your secret?

Some days it feels like I just can’t balance everything and nothing is getting done 100%. Which brings me to the amazing quote on the cheesy movie that shifted my whole thought process….

“not enough for who?”

I know right….. Mind BLOWN!

So this leads me to think, whose expectations am I trying to live up to?

I’m pretty sure hubby doesn’t care if the laundry baskets over flowing and last nights dishes are still waiting by the sink.

I’m also pretty sure my baby doesn’t care if I haven’t made it out of my PJ’s on a Saturday. My boss doesn’t even care if I didn’t get my to do list done by the end of the day (also written by me and potentially way too optimistic!) as long as the basics of my role are covered the rest can be carried over. So whom am I failing?

Well it seems it’s only my expectations I’m not meeting and maybe they are just too high, if everyone else is happy with what I’m achieving then maybe I’m doing okay after all.

As always we are our own worst critics and we need to learn to give ourselves a break now and again.

So I think this means I need to learn to relax, enjoy the moment and remember to reflect on what amazing things we mum’s and dad’s are achieving and of course…

More cheesy movies, I mean look how educational they are!

Do you ever feel that you aren’t good enough? How do you try and stop yourself feeling this way?

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39 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 06 May 2022
    1:20 pm
I always say that I am the best Mum I can possibly be. Some days Im better then others but each day I give it what I ahve to give.

- - mrs elle said
  - 26 Oct 2015
    9:42 pm
I hate this feeling – I have it all of the time! I think sometimes we are our own worst critics and put too much pressure on ourselves as mothers!

- - mom94378 said
  - 02 Aug 2015
    9:04 pm
Life is like a box of chocolates

- - tinakraja said
  - 29 Jul 2015
    9:56 pm
i feel this way often but hub always says he doesnt care and doesnt even notice, you are trying to live up to those stepford wives lol

- - christial said
  - 30 Jun 2015
    9:44 pm
Sometimes I just take a day off. I need it! If the stuff isn’t done today, I’ll do it tomorrow. I try not to burn myself out.

- - ruth1980 said
  - 21 Jun 2015
    8:09 pm
Turning 35 this week I know this feeling well

- - TigerLily said
  - 18 Jun 2015
    9:09 pm
At times ,watch romantic comedys,watched the holiday other night it was great to relax and just kick back once in awhile, as I’m a single parent I am both mum anddad, I am a only parent I always have a huge to do list but who doesn’t ,:) nice article/blog

- - mom113055 said
  - 17 Jun 2015
    8:44 pm
so exellent

- - ella12 said
  - 16 Jun 2015
    3:27 pm
Just do the best you can, don’t try to be Superwoman.

- - mom86525 said
  - 16 Jun 2015
    6:22 am
This is my thought process on a daily basis, rhat I have failed as a mother, wife, referee and my job. Although we are not alone there are times we feel alone and failing in every aspect of our daily lives, so thank you.

- - nickyedmonds said
  - 15 Jun 2015
    10:15 pm
Always but then your child says they love you and gives hugs and it all changes

- - maryphilip said
  - 15 Jun 2015
    5:10 pm
You are absolutely right; we put the pressure on ourselves. I have to remind myself that the cleaning the house can wait as I can do that tomorrow but spending time with my little bub is more important as she won’t be baby forever. We have to be realistic with our expectations.

- - bronnie said
  - 15 Jun 2015
    8:47 am
When i had down days I would start my day again. Big deep breath and speak to your children about how you feel. They probably dont understand yet at least you can express yourself. I used to say to my kids .mum is not having a good day do you think we can do things togrther . E.G. lets line up your shoes .lets vaccumn together and than lets play lego together. TOGETHER is the main word xxxxx

- - tans said
  - 15 Jun 2015
    8:35 am
I always put too much pressure on myself in everything I do I try to make way too many people happy and laugh and don’t take time for me always do extras for everyone and am last on the list. I don’t mind but sometimes feel I go way too far and need to say no. I think we all need to take even just a 1/2 hour a week to just sit and stare at the roof and breathe

- - robyn_smithwick said
  - 14 Jun 2015
    8:21 pm
I think we expect too much of ourselves at times! A sense of humour helps a lot and I think if you can laugh at yourself when you stuff up that helps too. I have no trouble at all admitting I have stuffed up and also I have no difficulty apologizing for it if the situation warrants it! Fortunately I don’t stuff up very often! Hubby just shakes his head and says and you were an honours student? then we both have a good laugh.