After miscarriage – I don’t want my partner to touch me…

After miscarriage – I don’t want my partner to touch me and I don’t know what to do. Both my partner and I have kids from previous relationships and he didn’t want me to keep this baby. I miscarried a couple of weeks ago at 8 weeks and I can’t stand the thought of him touching me let alone having sex. We used to have sex 3-4 times a week and now I can’t even comprehend him touching me. Have any other mums been through these feelings? I don’t know how to work through them and seriously considering ending the relationship. I think my main thing is he never wanted the baby and he got exactly what he wanted… I think I understand it wasn’t his fault but he wasn’t caring or anything after it happened… Would love to hear from any mums who have experience something similar?

Posted by anon, 18/08/13
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  1. mummy liana

    March 27, 2014 at 9:16 pm,

    MoM Rewards: mummy liana has a diamond MoM rewards level mummy liana said:

    that is sad to hear im sorry for your loss


  2. snoopy

    January 29, 2014 at 8:39 pm,

    MoM Rewards: snoopy has a diamond MoM rewards level snoopy said:

    Hope you have been able to better this situation.


  3. ljsalomon

    January 23, 2014 at 9:43 pm,

    MoM Rewards: ljsalomon has a diamond MoM rewards level ljsalomon said:

    I really hope you have manged to work through this.


  4. December 30, 2013 at 2:02 pm,

    MoM Rewards: kathryn has a diamond MoM rewards level kathryn said:

    I believe in being very open in a relationship so I would talk it over with him


  5. December 08, 2013 at 8:45 am,

    MoM Rewards: ljsalomon has a diamond MoM rewards level ljsalomon said:

    How are things with you both now?


  6. nic78

    November 30, 2013 at 8:52 pm,

    MoM Rewards: nic78 has a diamond MoM rewards level nic78 said:

    Perhaps some counselling for you both together & yourself separately may be of assistance? Wishing you all the best


  7. sonja_holness

    November 30, 2013 at 6:06 pm,

    MoM Rewards: sonja_holness has a diamond MoM rewards level sonja_holness said:

    Loosing a baby is a huge thing, if he didn’t want the baby then maybe the relationship isn’t worth continuing.


  8. mggarner

    November 25, 2013 at 10:31 am,

    MoM Rewards: mggarner has a diamond MoM rewards level mggarner said:

    What did you end up doing?


  9. November 22, 2013 at 12:44 pm,

    MoM Rewards: melaniejane_butler has a topaz MoM rewards level melaniejane_butler said:

    seek counseling if you want to save your relationship but if you know in your heart you don’t want to walk away from him and do something for you only time will heal this wound it becomes easier but never goes away…..xxxxx


  10. mggarner

    November 21, 2013 at 10:19 am,

    MoM Rewards: mggarner has a diamond MoM rewards level mggarner said:

    it takes time, give it time and hopefully you will be able to let him touch you


  11. hopefullyheidi

    November 09, 2013 at 11:54 am,

    MoM Rewards: hopefullyheidi has a diamond MoM rewards level hopefullyheidi said:

    I can understand the resentment factor. I think you need to really get this issue out in the open and discuss options of dealing with it. You are quite justified in feeling this way and I would give it time and deal with the emotional side of things first.


  12. missmanic

    October 30, 2013 at 2:58 pm,

    MoM Rewards: missmanic has a diamond MoM rewards level missmanic said:

    Lovely advice and hope things are better for you now.


  13. kjgarner

    October 30, 2013 at 2:13 pm,

    MoM Rewards: kjgarner has a diamond MoM rewards level kjgarner said:

    Really sorry for your loss, don’t give up it takes time, I had a stillborn and 3 miscarriages and you have to take one step at a time and go from there


  14. meltingmoment

    October 26, 2013 at 4:33 pm,

    MoM Rewards: meltingmoment has a diamond MoM rewards level meltingmoment said:

    I hope you are managing to sort things out. Some good advice below.


  15. October 26, 2013 at 10:27 am,

    MoM Rewards: coppin85 has a diamond MoM rewards level coppin85 said:

    See the doctor and go from there! You don’t want to feel this way!


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