This sounds so much like to sister and if I dont talk to her everyday she goes out of her way to bug me like constantly ringing my home phone mobile messages I have even had to change my mobile number

Sorry to hear your story,l would have a talk and explain and spell out a few truths to her!

Maybe she needs to sign a contract! It could read “will not speak unless authorised!”

The problem with my mum is she doesn’t bother with me unless I make the first move. So I decided ‘No more!’ I haven’t contacted her for months and have also heard nothing from her. Except a text on my birthday. What should that tell me?

oh dear hope things improve

I get where you are coming from. At t he same time i believe at one time or another we all have been so mad at our mothers that you even think to yourself ” Is she really my mum?”

The fact is your mum is very proud of you, hence the reason she is telling everyone of your pregnancy.

Having said that, i thick she is lonely, that is why she is drawing attention to herself about all these different illnesses.

She needs your love and attention. May be you can encourage her to join a group, any group where she can interact with other people her age with the same interests. That way she won’t be able to upset you so much because she will be too busy, doing something with her life. Good luck.

I lost my Mum on the 31st of July and I would give anything to have her back as she was the most loving giving and supportive person I ever knew except for my Dad who was the same and he has been gone just over 16 years. May be just block out what annoys you and don’t dwell on it and just count the good things about your Mum. No body is perfect and no Mum is either just ask any child…..

I’m lucky to have a wonderful mother and MIL. I just wish they lived closer.

Sometimes us Mums get excited with good news ,maybe she doesn’t have good things to talk about ,so any news she has heard is good gossip.She might be pain ,but think if she’s gone ,there would be a big hole in ur kgs .P.S my Mums is a pain to .

Yes, same here. I love my Mum and feel guilty if I haven’t contacted her for a while but when I do a lot of the time I come away feeling annoyed. She is closer to my younger sister than me, and when I talk to my Mum it”s always about my sister and her family. When I bring something up about my family It’s like she isn’t interested and there we are again, back to a one sided conversation about my sister and her family. I hope my kids won’t feel the same way about me so that’s why I try to be very patient.

This sounds like your writing exactly about my mother – though mine really takes it to a whole new level.. Constantly criticizes my husband, our lifestyle (even though we both work full time & her + her hubby are on centreline benefits + other means of income which i’ll not advertise, though both are more then capable of working and earning an honest living)
From the moment I found out I was pregnant she took over everything, advertised it before I was ready, as I wanted to make sure I was past the “safe point”, started telling me what I should & shouldn’t buy for the baby, criticizing every single move my husband made if it wasn’t baby related, assumed she was welcome into the birth without any form of conversation – after my hubby had had enough, she even went as far as threatening to take him to court for access if she didn’t get to see our child.. it got so out of control, that I ended up having to cut off contact with her completely.. Makes me wonder what goes on upstairs there.. But non-the-less, it’s been a relief to be able to focus on my baby-and preparing to become a mum for the first time, without all her controlling antics..

YES OMG YES!

I find my relationship with my mum depends on my mood. If i am happy, she generally is too. But if I am a bit low or negative, she feeds off it.

I just don’t talk to my mother. Don’t respect my boundaries? Don’t expect to be inside them.

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  • • hopefullyheidi replied
    • 16 Oct 2014 , 9:30 pm

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  I have the same situation with my mother.

I hear you! I’m the eldest of four, and we were blessed with twin boys. She tells everyone how much she looks after them and yet in reality hasn’t looked after them for longer then 10mins as she and dad say “there’s two of them”. It hurts as they prefer to help my brother with his children (partner has 4 parents and a grandparent to help) whereas I have no one. Hubby’s family live 8 hours away and mine live 20mins but we might as live on another planet. Love my mum but hate how she treats our boys, hubby & me like leppers. Hate it.

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  • • mom72550 replied
    • 22 Oct 2014 , 1:15 pm

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  Oh that’s just hard.