at first i thought that this was a joke but then i realised that they were serious and it is sad. i really enjoy growing with my children they make things better so i feel sorry for those who don’t feel that way as well.

I feel like their slave! Single mum of boys 13 years apart, the older one cannot take responsibility for himself. The little one 8yo is stubborn. I have no support from either father or any family. I hate being a parent now. Loved it when they were babies. I have no life. Its horrible.

I understand this. I don’t regret my children but on those bad days, those really tough ones where everyone is pushing their limits and you feel physically and mentally exhausted. The days that make you wonder “are all kids like this or are mine the only little terrorists running around causing havoc?” The days you where you go to bed with the mum guilt. Feeling stressed beyond what you’d ever imagine. The days where you feel you have reached your limit and couldn’t possibly take any more. They’re the days that I find myself wondering why I did this to myself, how the other half live. How nice it would be to be able to relax somewhere quiet, undisturbed. To be known as Alanna again, to be just myself, not just someone’s mum.
But then a little person climbs into my bed, holds my hand and falls asleep with his face against my face and my heart warms and I’m filled with that overwhelming sensation of complete unconditional love and I know that I would never want my life to be any different and all is right with the world again.

The only thing I would change would be the father as he turned violent whilst I was engaged to him and ended up a single mum from scratch. But I believe everything happens for a reason…

No – the best thing I have ever done. Love every minute of it.

Loved having all my children.

It would appear some of the Mums may not have had a good support base. If couples waited until they considered they had enough money many may never have had any children at all.
Mums suddenly find they have lost their independence, and some resent the baby for a long time, sometimes until they start school. It is sad but in some cases true. I have heard Mums comment “When I get my life back”.

Thankfully for me I have never felt this. I have had regret for the children I didnt have. I always wanted 6 children but my husband met me half way and we had 3. I think it helps that we planned each of them and we were lucky enough to be able to put ourselves in a financially stable position before having them. We discussed our thoughts on how we should raise children, etc. Although once the children came along all the actual care of them fell to me. I was like a single mum that didnt have to worry about working to earn the money. Over 3 children I can count on one hand the number of times he changed a nappy. I wished he had been more of a hands on Dad but I never once regretted having my children.