The rise of the separation specialist – outsource your breakup

Christmas is around the corner, and it’s time for a new year and a fresh start. But what if another year with your partner feels more like a weight around your neck than a reason to celebrate?

Want to end your relationship, but don’t know how? Sounds like you might need a separation specialist.

With the ability to outsource nearly everything in today’s modern world, a break-up is now no different.

Proving to be the latest way to finish a long-term relationship properly, the benefits are numerous, with a reduced emotional footprint, a greater likelihood of parting on good terms with your partner and a huge saving in legal costs touted as just three such positives.

With the actioning of a couple’s separation having pretty much been in the hands of fat cat lawyers until now (notionally rubbing their hands together each time another marriage bites the dust), the rise of the separation specialist (a.k.a. divorce angel) is a breath of fresh air in an arena that has been desperately in need of an upgrade for some time.

For example, individuals consulting a separation specialist can now obtain:

The guiding hand necessary to simplify the uncoupling process (reducing down the need for the legal eagles to a bare minimum)
The expertise to help devise the best co-parenting strategy (if required)
The best approach to minimise the psychological and financial trauma often associated with a relationship breakdown

“People going through a separation can often feel like their whole world is being torn apart, but it doesn’t have to be that way,” reveals Alvia Turney, CEO and founder of Australia’s leading separation specialist, Act4Tomorrow.

“As a separation specialist, we take that burden off our clients’ shoulders, acting as a facilitator and go-between – filtering animosity, advising on process and working on an equitable outcome for all involved, saving thousands of dollars on court costs as a result.

“In fact, many people come and see us before they have even mentioned ending their relationship to their partner. We help them prepare for their breakup and also assist with the actual breakup – planning it (when/where/how) and composing the breakup letter/speech. We know how to end a relationship to ensure the best chances of keeping the separation civil. This is so important, especially when there are children involved”.

Consultation with a separation specialist is therefore the most empowering thing you can do to ensure you are able to move forward from your relationship to a new beginning, with confidence.

With the option of outsourcing a long-term relationship breakup now very real, what remains to be seen is the effect this may have on society as a whole. Could it be that separations become more prevalent, or might more people/children/families simply be walking around happier? Our bet is on the latter.

So, here’s to a bit of common sense in a system that has been stuck in the dark ages for far too long. The separation specialist is here to stay – making the uncoupling process simpler, easier, friendlier and cheaper for all. Bring on the app…

Could you have done with a separation specialist when you split from your partner?

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24 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 03 Jan 2022
    11:55 am
This is not something that I ever had to deal with but I can imagine that its a nightmare especially if the couple is at war with each other.

- - ella12 said
  - 16 Feb 2016
    12:42 pm
Hmm, not to sure about this idea.

- - curlytops said
  - 18 Jan 2016
    6:58 pm
its good that there are services to help people.

- - BellaB said
  - 13 Jan 2016
    1:22 pm
I’ve often said we should be teaching kids how to manage relationships better – it’s at least as important as sex ed!

- - pakeko said
  - 05 Jan 2016
    8:26 pm
Wow hope it is something I never need, but something so many could use

- - rachelvk said
  - 31 Dec 2015
    12:40 pm
This looks like a useful service but hopefully as a last resort. Thanks for sharing.

- - aprilb1 said
  - 30 Dec 2015
    9:52 pm
I think for some people this would be a great idea as alot of people end on bad terms and this sounds like it would help

- - mom94125 said
  - 03 Dec 2015
    4:58 pm
well i think that this would be a useful service but i think that it should be used as a last resort, not just because you feel restless and need a change. I think that people should try living together first and seeing if the basis for friendship is there. i think people think that 2 years is some kind of a milestone ie if we have liked each other for 2 years, it is time to get married and then that whirlwind ensues. five years later with a kid or two and you both have changed ergo divorce. People should take their time and not rush into marriages for whatever reason. See counsellors etc before you get married. Let’s take these divorce rates down. Marriage is for life not for now.

- - linaianna said
  - 30 Nov 2015
    4:56 pm
Thanks for sharing this article

- - mom160421 said
  - 27 Nov 2015
    1:00 pm
Very well said MoM57340, and MoM90758 I’m sorry for what you went through as a teenager. Parents should always put their children’s needs before their own.
- mom90758 replied
  
  28 Nov 2015 , 12:52 pm
  They should but often it’s exactly at these moments that they show how egoistic they are.
- - mom90758 said
  - 26 Nov 2015
    2:44 pm
I wish my parents had gone through such a counselling when they separated. I was 14 years old at the time and it looked to me like the adults were just thinking about themselves. Without thinking about the consequences on us kids.
A separation is really hard. It’s even harder if you don’t get any support.

- - mom57340 said
  - 24 Nov 2015
    6:46 am
The reality is that close to 50% of all couples divorce or separate. If and when that time comes, I think we can all agree having an impartial party in our corner, helping with logistics and emotional support while saving us on legal costs is a GREAT idea!!

- - mom167372 said
  - 23 Nov 2015
    2:40 pm
Only a person who has been through a relationship breakup can truly understand the benefit of using a separation specialist. It was not my choice to separate after 20 years of marriage, it was foisted upon me. By end in 2013 I was at an all-time low after 18 tortuous months of trying to rebuild what was once a happy marriage. Making decisions about my future alone was daunting. When I read a magazine article about Act 4 Tomorrow I knew this was what I needed. They supported me emotionally while keeping me moving in a forward direction, helping me maintain respectful communication with my ex and get out the other side with my integrity intact. I have become a stronger person thanks to Act 4 Tomorrow. Their services are wide ranging from helping you work on your relationship, make the decision to stay or leave, financial settlement, divorce and teaching you about healthy relationships and what to look for in a partner. This is the new era of separation – let’s make going to court to settle a thing of the past.

- - mom94378 said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    7:54 pm
Can’t belieive this is being contemplated.

- - robyn_smithwick said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    4:19 pm
That would be horrible to go through..