As mums we often find being good to ourselves a bit challenging as it can seem as bit self-centred or indulgent. How often do we put others needs before our own?
I know how often I took the burnt bits of toast, or let my son have the last chocolate, or went without the ice cream because we couldn’t quite afford one for everyone.
But developing and nurturing loving kindness towards ourselves is an important part of health, healing and happiness. So to kick-start us on that journey I’ve put together some tips you might find useful:
- Set an intention for each and every day. It doesn’t have to be ground-breaking. It could be as simple as making time for a coffee break.
- Be in nature. Take some time every day to spend some time in nature, in your garden, in a park or at the beach. Nature is very healing and soothing. It allows us to get in touch with all our senses – smell the flowers, feel the air or sun on your skin, hear the birds or the waves or watch a sunset.
- End all your toxic relationships. Do it now, these things drain you and make you unhappy. Anyone who doesn’t make you feel amazing doesn’t deserve to be in your life.
- Keep a gratitude journal – just note down at the end of each day all things that you’re grateful for however simple and small. It could be the sun shining through the window, the hugs you get from your kids, the smile you got from the lady in the shop.
- Move your beautiful body – getting touch with our bodies is healing and calming. Take a restorative yoga class, swim or go for a walk. Something simple and gentle. You’ll be amazed how much these can de-stress you.
- Learn to say NO. Remember it’s OK to do this and learn to stay within your limits. There’s no need to feel guilty and smart people know when to say no.
- Enjoy your food – cook a simple meal, take time to enjoy the smell and taste of your food. Or sip and savour your morning coffee and feel how this helps to focus your mind and in turn calms you down.
- Have a big deep belly laugh – it’s a great workout for your inner organs and the rush of good hormones will balance out the cortisol and other stress hormones and give you a real lift.
- Be creative even if you think you’re not the creative type – dance, sing, paint, draw, do some colouring in. Have fun doing it, release your inner-child. Doing this with your kids is a great way to have fun.
- Keep your inner critic at bay. Don’t let that nasty little inner voice tell you that you’re not good enough. Remember thoughts are not facts, they’re just a stream of mental events.
- Take some time out to calm yourself. Find time to sit quietly at some point in the day even if it’s only for 5 or 10 minutes. Connect deeply with yourself without judgement or trying to make anything happen.
- Be kind and patient with yourself – remember being good to yourself takes time but it’s so worth it! And remember “You are being the best you can be at this moment”.
Do you have any other tips to add to the list? Please share in the comments below.
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