August 14, 2015

Starting school is difficult for everyone involved, and can lead to children and parents feeling anxious. Kids in particular a very prone to this however. Here are 5 reason kids become anxious about school and a few ways to help them deal with it.

1.  Fear of failure

Many children have an innate fear of failure. They fear that somehow they will bring shame to their parents if they do not succeed in everything they do. Make sure that you talk to your children, and let them know that you can’t win every race, and there are going to be times where you will lose, and going to be times where you succeed.

2. Not having friends

Starting school or a new school can be a stressful time in regards to meeting new friends. Children may not be used to socialising with a wide variety of people. Make sure that your children are aware of how to make friends at school, and help them through tough times when they feel like you are the only one they can turn to.

3. Test and grade anxiety

With the beginning of school comes testing and grades. Many children, right up to their final year, feel anxiety stemming from grades. Children need to be made aware that while grades are important during school, they are not life determining things, and there is always opportunity to do whatever you want.

4. Sporting ability

Lets face it, not everyone can be sporty, and this alone can make some kids very nervous. Let your children know that not everyone is sporty, and they are not alone in feeling this anxiety.

5. Facing situations on their own

This is a big one. Children have always had their guardians there for them when they had a problem. Now that they are at school though, they have to be a little more creative. They need to sort their own problems out and look after themselves. Making a good group of friends at school can help them greatly, as they will then have people to look to for assistance to problems.

Let us know how your child coped with starting school, or even just starting a new school!

  • My daughter struggled when the bullying started. Luckily she’s very strong and fought back pretty quick, they didn’t beat her


  • I have a son who is quite an anxious child, surprisingly though he loves school. Having great friends and an awesome teacher really helps and we have had no issues at school.


  • starting school is difficult


  • Parents really need to put being involved at their childrens school a priority. So many parents don’t have a clue what’s going on or who their kids teachers even are!


  • my biggest fear is when my four year old starts mainstream school, shes hopeless now at me leaving her even after 5 months at childcare three days a week. I dread the school gate drop off.


  • Talk to your kids daily and let them know you understand them….


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  • Hope these tips work for someone who needs it. Sounds like sound advice


  • Keep communicating with your child until all their questions are answered, ensuring them that you are by their side to support them.


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  • sure, talk to them and tell them what to expect


  • This is a very good article for kids starting school. Been through that a while ago.


  • Good article and so useful – anything that can help little ones and big ones with anxiety is good.


  • Not going through this yet. Great information thank you


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