They didnt mean any harm but a better choice of words is definitely needed there. She may as well have told her she was a failure.

No – I always had the other connotation – I was booked in for a C-section because my prior baby was born with a C-section and they said you can’t have a natural birth once you have had a C-section. But my last baby didn’t want to follow procedures and the midwife/nurse said I don’t know what is happening here – your surgeon is an hour away but your baby isn’t. Are you in pain? [Me – No] Nurse Baby wants to be delivered [me – OK] nurse I’ll talk you through [me – OK] Nurse – pant, pant now push. [me Oh OK – oh isn’t he beautiful] The biggest baby I had ever delivered at 8lb 3oz and the easiest delivery as well.

Oh wow I’m appalled. As mums, we mostly all just do what’s best for our children. How awful to be called a quitter

Quitter is such a hard word to say when a new mum is emotionally vulnerable. Shame on the midwife who should be more encouraging.

Wow! It’s one thing to encourage Mum’s to deliver vaginally where appropriate but to use the term ‘quitter’ is just so wrong!

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  • • kjgarner replied
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  You should every use that when it comes to delivering a baby

She should be a little more supportive!

It’s certainly inappropriate and at the most vulnerable time for a woman and child. I had a similar experience in relation to breastfeeding and being undermined/questioned throughout my second pregnancy and whilst in hospital to feed naturally and not artificially! This is with notes stating I had ended up on Iv drip 7 weeks into feeding with first child who had failed to get to birth weigh until a month old!

You can guarantee her ob had already had the discussion with her

What a disappointing thing to say I was surprised it came from the midwife

To voice personal concerns about medical decisions without being asked to do so, doesn’t suit any medical professional.

What a terrible thing to have to hear. The midwife should be ashamed of herself.

Birth is such an emotionally vulnerable time for the mother. If she’s made the decision in conjunction with the doctor, the midwives should have kept their mouths shut. I had a C-section because the cord was wrapped around my son’s neck and across his body under the arm. It was a good call! I was traumatized enough about not being able to give birth the way I had envisioned, I can only imagine what it would have been like had a midwife said the same thing to me!

If there were medical grounds for disagreeing with a medical choice it should be taken up with the Doctor first. No Mother should be questioned on her choices for her and her baby and especially not at such a vulnerable time.

it is very unprofessional behaviour indeed. i don’t know why they just need to voice their own opinions about things

Considering the fact that the midwife most likely witnessed the conversation with the Doctor, the midwife was out of line with her comments.