Mum worried she is just being plain mean for not giving her child a birthday party every year.

This mum turned to the internet when she was feeling a bit mean after saying no to yet another birthday party.

She shared, “Do you give your children a birthday party every year? It gets so expensive that I don’t think I can this year. I was thinking instead I could take the birthday boy to somewhere of his choice, like bowling, laser tag etc with just siblings and one friend maybe. Am I being a mean mum by not having a party?”

Mums totally agreed!

It gets too expensive to host a party for the kids every year.

We loved Jade’s idea, “My kids get theirs at 5, 10, 13, 16 and 18. Other than that, its just family activities, or cake at the park if friends want to show up. I can’t afford full blown parties every year!”

Lisa also shared, “My kids get 2 big parties each and the rest of the birthday’s they could invite 1 or 2 friends over for a sleep over or for a bbq and they were happy with that.”

Amy said, “Milestone birthday party’s and the other years something small with family.”

Hazel agreed, “Every second year, with two kiddos birthdays 3 weeks apart they take it in turns. Otherwise it’s just so expensive.”

Jodie shared, “I must be the meanest mum in the world then lol both my boys had a 1st bday party and that’s it! But in saying that they always get a special cake and we go out for tea or they choose whatever they want. It must be enough they have never asked for a party.”

Despina said, “Only first year of school, whether that be age 5 or 6, then 10, 13, 16, 18, 21. The others are just family and current bff.”

How do you feel about kids parties? Do you do something special for your kids every year, or limit it to every second or even third year?

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  • Do what is right for you, your family and budget. They do get very expensive.

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  • We live in a rural area so, yes I was guilty of giving them a birthday party every year until they turned 15. It was never a big thing. They would invite their friends (6 was the most that could make it) and it would just be cake and special treats, a couple of games and then their parents would pick them up. Most of the parents would stay though and while the kids were enjoying themselves, we’d be having a coffee and chat. It was just a time for them to spend time together out of school out of school hours

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  • These days organizing party is very expensive .i have 2 children .we r celebrating but only with family members.don’t be harsh on yourself.

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  • I’ve learnt the hard way to only do milestone parties. It really is just getting too much.
    Just had a friend sworn $1500 on a 7 year olds party at the local indoor water park!
    Now that’s just outrage and is going to send parents broke

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  • birthday parties should be milestone only, otherwise it’s too much and not as special and they come to expect and not appreciate.

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  • No way, you’re not a mean Mum. Our kids don’t need a party every year. We certainly acknowledge birthdays each year with cake and a celebration of sorts, but parties are for special birthdays – 1, 5 (first year in prep), 10, 13, 16, and 18. And mind you, I think we missed some of those and opted for something else my son preferred. Always spent with love and cake though.

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  • You don’t have to throw a big nonsense party but celebrate with family and friends even if just small and casual. Great memories to be had and missed out on otherwise


    • I agree ! Birthday decorations, birthday song, presents, treats, family and a special meal can make a simple but beautiful day.

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  • These days it seems you have to invite the whole class and then you are invited to all their parties. This can work out extremely expensive as you have to purchase presents each time. I think the time has come just to invite a few best friends and enjoy the time at a local park or when they get older a sleepover.

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  • As our kids got older, we started offering the alternative of a treat with one or two friends.

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  • Totally understand. None of my 4 kids had a party this year.

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  • God I don’t blame her. It’s s tiring and costly every year

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  • Parties can get so expensive, my kids get 3 parties each one in kinder, year 3 and year 6.

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  • I believe do what you are comfortable with. As it’s on you!
    A party can be 6 kids. The music balloons streamers etc all the same effort.
    But this year my expected miss 10 (now) only wanted two friends out for dinner. I was thinking yah! As I was thinking party. Some are party queens as mums that’s ok too, it’s their thing. Don’t compete.
    If your child really wants that party just remember doesn’t have to be masses of guests.

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  • Parties can get so expensive. We wont be doing one every year as both kids are around christmas. Only special birthdays, then maybe a friend sleepover or movie day with 1-2 friends instead of a party

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  • I don’t think she’s mean at all. You don’t necessarily need a party. There are plenty of ways to celebrate a birthday.

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