Have you ever wondered when should you tell kids the truth about Santa? Psychologist reveals age you should break the news.

Psychologist and parenting expert Dr Justin Coulson spoke to Daily Mail Australia about the controversial subject – and revealed when we should be telling our children the truth.

He said: “In my experience, kids get curious between the ages of five and seven.

“It’s a constant topic of conversation and like anything that’s supposed to be a secret: Knowledge is power.”

So if our little boys or girls come home from school, look up at us with those sad eyes and ask: “[Is Rudolph his favourite reindeer]? Ben in my class says he’s not,” how should we respond?

Dr Coulson says: “The right time to tell your child is as soon as they ask.

“If they’re old enough and curious enough to question, then they’re old enough to know the truth.”

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Well my youngest son will be 10 in February and he still happily plays along with the magic of Christmas.  He is currently sitting on the fence and I am definitely not about to push him either way! Let them enjoy the innocence of it for as long as possible.

How old was your child when they stopped believing in Santa?

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  • The time is right when the child is questioning it. The parents will know when it’s best. Let them be kids


  • Children like to play along with the magic of Santa so they get more presents – time enough to be in the REAL world – they will be there a long, long time.


  • I agree – we’ve never really encouraged a belief in Santa so if my daughter asks directly I just tell her.


  • I agree to let them enjoy the magic while they can. We told my son late Primary School age when he asked. We didn’t want him going to Secondary School still believing. He has ASD and we knew he would fight and argue for what he believed to be right, so judged as a family when it was right. He then quickly clicked to the Tooth Fairy and Easter Bunny. He wasn’t angry or upset, or felt we had lied to him. We then talked about the tricks and ways in which we created the magic for him. He loved unfolding it and remembering these.


  • The parents (not psychologists) will know when it’s the right time, they know their child/ren best.


  • They never asked so I never told them. I think they just worked it out for themselves. They still believe in the magic of Christmas and what it really means though


  • I am not sure what I will do with my son at this stage…


  • I always told my boys it doesn’t matter what you got for Christmas even if it was a pair of thongs from nana frog always be great full and say thank you xxx. I love Christmas, my 6 year old granddaughter says she doesn’t really want anything for Christmas this year xxxx


  • I’ve never much gone on about Santa.
    I remember my own feelings when I heard the truth about Santa. I felt so disillusioned. Why did they even make me believe a story when it’s not true ? It made me angry and sad.


  • I don’t remember how old I was and none of my older relatives are here to tell me.
    Apparently the first time I asked Mum her reply was “what do you think?”
    The next year I told Mum he wasn’t true. She agreed but told me not to tell my brother. He is 3 years younger than me. I found out from the kids at school as I guess most still do. One of my older cousins worked it out earlier as my Aunty was silly enough to take him to the store where his Uncle was Santa. He had very distinctive eyes. Also he mentioned his little brother in such a way so that confirmed his suspicions. Thankfully he didn’t tell his younger brother. There’s about 5 years gap.


  • My eldest is 10 and asks me alot but I just keep dodging the questions..lol

    • Wow 10, you kept the Santa secret very well ! What about school friends, are they not blabbing out the truth ?


  • If they don’t ask, don’t tell. And if they wanna believe in Santa as adults, to keep the magic alive, what’s the harm in that? Who knows, maybe the world will be a happier place? And it’s not that Santa isn’t real, Saint Nicholas was a man who lived a very long time ago


  • Kids work it out eventually. Just take the lead from them.


  • My eldest (10) is currently on the cusp but I haven’t influenced her either way. Once she was old enough she started believing in santa from the movies she watched and the stories her cousins would tell her. If she asked me if santa was real I would ask her if she thinks he’s real and why. She came up with her own reaspning, I’ve been honest (no I’ve never seen him) and also told her the stories of where Santa originates from but never would I just say he isn’t real. Folklore must have a grain of truth in it somewhere.


  • Children find out through friends that Santa doesn’t exist.


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