Many women have wanted kids since they could remember, but for some, it isn’t in their plan. Are you guilty of judging women who don’t want kids?

A frustrated woman has said that she feels judged when telling others she doesn’t want kids. The woman said that many people try to convince her that she is missing out on a wonderful experience, and believes that society is guilty of judging women who make the same decision.

Not For Everybody

“I’m in my early 30s and have decided that I never want kids,” the woman shared in her post. “Literally every single female who I’ve confided in about this, from family members to friends to work colleagues, have been incredibly judgmental and told me I’ll be missing out.”

Despite feeling fulfilled in her career and relationship, the woman says she has been forced to constantly justify her decision and believes that society is to blame. “Am I being unreasonable to find these opinions very irritating?” she asked. “I don’t list all the reasons to them why I think their way of life is less appealing to mine, so I don’t see why I have to sit back and basically be told I’m a freak for not wanting kids.”

A Personal Choice

Comments on the woman’s post said she was right to feel upset. “Having children doesn’t define you as a woman,” one commenter wrote. “It’s sad that other women do this. Don’t let other people’s ignorance get to you.” “I didn’t want kids in my early 30’s,” another shared. “I changed my mind, but I certainly wouldn’t judge those who didn’t and would probably be massively jealous of their child-free lifestyle.”

The pressure to have children can be immense and you only have to look at those in the public eye to see it. Meghan and Harry were barely married before people started speculating about a possible pregnancy! Every woman has the right to choose what is right for her without fear of judgment.

Are you guilty of judging women who don’t have kids? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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  • I think it is fantastic that some women do what is right for themselves, besides the planet is over crowded anyway.

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  • I never wanted kids but back in the 90’s it was still expected that all women would want kids. Altho I don’t regret having them it turned out that I would end up having to raise them on my own as my husband left us when they were still very young & didn’t want the responsibility & restrictions that came with them. Not only do kids tie you down but to be honest who wants to bring kids into the world that we live in today.
    My daughter in law doesn’t wants kids which I fully respect & support & I would never pressure her like I was by my then husband’s family. It is the right of every woman to choose whether she has them or not & no one has the right to say she should, it is a huge commitment that doesn’t finish even when they become young adults.

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  • I would never judge another women for making a decision about her life, it is no ones business beside her own.

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  • Other people’s family planning is no one else’s business. I told anyone who asked me about kids that I didn’t want any, I realise now that I was masking the fear that my life partner wasn’t going to be able to parent with me so I’d be left to do it alone. I was just scared that I’d have to do it alone and that I wouldn’t do a good job.

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  • Children aren’t for everybody. I made my choice and others are free to make theirs. If not having children makes them happy, then good for them! I have a friend who always said she didn’t want kids and now she’s traveling the world and is happy!

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  • Not my business what another woman want to do with her womb or her life, she doesn’t get a say in mine

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  • Indeed. Everybody decides for herself. And keeping pressing people is just annoying.

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  • I wish more women would choose not to become mothers because there are a lot of children being treated badly in the world. If people don’t want to be a parent then they shouldn’t be a parent. I always knew I wanted to be a mother. I have a cousin who has never wanted kids and will never want kids but people constantly tell her she will change her mind. It is so rude to comment on that. She doesn’t want kids. Her choice.

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  • I didn’t want kids up until I was 35 – then I changed my mind, BUT I would never judge someone on these choices because its their choice! Not everyone wants kids and just because you can;t understand why this is doesn’t make you right and them wrong!


    • I never wanted kids either but fell pregnant and had my son at 39, so thankful I did, even though even up to the day he was born I was kind of still in denial.

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  • We know different people that never wanted to have kids. One girl says “she’s allergic” to kids. :-)
    I don’t mind either way. We just have one life. We do with it what we want. No need to justify anything to anyone.

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  • Never, motherhood should always be a choice not an assumption

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  • No. Not at all. It really isn’t for everyone and that’s ok

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  • Everyone is entitled to their own choice and everyone has their own reasons. I don’t judge. Each to their own.

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  • Nope. The world is so over populated. We need those women. They are the real heroes. Kids are sticky and don’t ever stop talking. Its weider to want them when you think about it.

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  • I’m not. Sometimes I even envy them!

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