Mum says her sister-in-law banned her four-month old baby from a family birthday party, because her fertility struggles make it tough for her to be around the baby.
“It’s not something I wanted to post but I need advice,” the mum wrote on Mumsnet.
“I have a four month old daughter, the first grandchild for my parents, I am the youngest of four.
“My brother and his wife have been trying to conceive for over four years.”
The mum explains how she is very close to her “people pleaser” brother, and has been understanding of the fact his wife has chosen to ignore her at several events.
However, it’s now birthday season in the mum’s family, and one of the celebrations happens to be for her brother’s 40th, with a full weekend of fun planned.
“It’s a big family thing where all the children from her side have been invited including her nieces and nephews (ages from one month old to 7 years).
“My partner and I have been invited but not my daughter as it’s too hard for her to see her.
“My brother on the other hand sees her as much as possible but alone.
“Would I be unreasonable to take this personally? It’s very hard to be singled out because obviously I won’t be going anywhere without her.”
Infertility undoubtedly one of the most painful struggles a person can face, but the sister-in-law’s inclusion of her own nieces and nephews made other mums suspicious.
“I can understand why having babies around would be tough,” wrote one mum, “but why does that not also apply to her side of the family?
“If it’s a ‘no children’ event fair enough, but it does sound like your daughter is being unfairly singled out.”
Other mums agreed.
“I’d be finding it difficult not to take this personally,” another added. “No children or no babies at all I could understand. ”
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