This demanding bride forced guests to cough up hundreds to secure their spot at her wedding.

We all know that weddings can be an expensive day out – by the time you organise an outfit, buy a gift and sort out hair and makeup, you can be looking at a significant amount of money. One bride has given her guests another expense to add to their list, including her bank details with her wedding invite requesting that guests pay a sum of money to secure a their place at the wedding.

Completely Unexpected

The groom’s sister posted to popular forum Netmums to share her disbelief at receiving the unusual request. “So my sister-in-law announced that her wedding (this summer) was going to be a weekend-long affair a couple of hours away from where we live. Invitations were sent out and my husband and I were a little shocked to see that alongside the RSVP info was bank details to pay 180 pounds to secure our place at the wedding!”  The bride’s mother-in-law had already offered to cover the cost of the wedding, which included the accommodation at the venue, so many guests were left wondering what the additional money was for…

Just Bad Manners

Commenters on the post were quick to reassure the bride’s sister-in-law that she wasn’t being unreasonable to question the additional cost. “If it’s not for accomodation, then I’d ask what it’s for,” said one forum user. “If it’s for other wedding costs then I wouldn’t pay it as it’s just outrageously rude.” “That’s the tackiest thing I’ve ever heard,” said another.

We’re not sure about this one – while giving cash as a wedding gift is becoming more and more common, requesting that your guests hand over a specific amount of money seems a bit forward. Hopefully the bride can sort out the situation or she may have fewer guests turning up than she thought!

Would you pay to attend a friend’s wedding? Let us know in the comments!




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  • I wouldn’t go!


  • Well…I would not go.


  • I’m sorry, I’m so over these outrageous requests for weddings. I wouldn’t attend. I would come up with some great excuse of why I couldn’t go – like watching the paint dry!


  • Talk about bridzilla! I wouldn’t go!


  • I certainly wouldn’t pay to attend someone’s wedding unless it was for my accommodation and I’d pay that to the company not to her personal account. If the MIL is paying for accommodation I can only think she wants the money to pay for her wedding. If she doesn’t have the money she should tone down the wedding to save money. I’d be insulted if I was asked to give her money and a specific amount is just too crude.


  • That’s very rude, it’s your wedding, pay for it yourself.


  • What a great way to not have people at your wedding – why not just elope and save all the angst. Should someone do that to me, I wouldn’t be going.


  • I’d question where the money was going, unfortunately I wouldn’t pay to attend a friends wedding.


  • What a shock, and a good excuse not to go. Although I can certainly understand the urge to do this, recently my niece got married and 3 people who had RSVP’d didn’t turn up… excuse on the day, they just didn’t come (later found out that one had a hang-over from the previous night, one said they were going to be busy the next day so decided to give the wedding a miss and the other had no reason at all, ended up saying that they would have been bored because they didn’t know anyone!)….. with the cost of the wedding at $145 a head this more than a mere annoyance.


  • well that is a bit rich! – if I got that invite I would simple RSVP no sorry I’m busy that weekend, I think it is quite rude to ask for money to secure your guests place at the wedding!


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