I am sure many of us read the above question and thought ‘yes’ then probably yawn and feel a sense of disappointment in ourselves for not being in the mood or too tired for Sex.

Do you feel pressure to make love more than you want to? Do you wonder why your libido isn’t as active as your partners? Do you feel like you plan for sex to try and be in the mood? Do you feel like you disappoint your partner with your lack of libido?

If you say yes to any of these questions then please keep reading, I can help you to ease the pressure you put on yourself and to activate and enjoy a blossoming libido!

The first thing is to stop living in denial. Acceptance, when we have any problem in our lives, is the first step to healing.

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Accept that for some reason your mojo has gone on a holiday and forgotten to take you!

Accept that it is ok that your libido has taken a backseat in your relationship. Accept you don’t feel like having sex three times per day like your partner. For whatever reason or reasons, your other life priorities have taken over such as kids, work or just life in general. Once you accept, yes I currently have a low libido then you start to get somewhere.

I feel it very important now to mention to be very careful of ‘the blame game’. Yes, you know what I mean. Your libido is yours, no one elses. So next time you think or go to tell a story that points the finger at someone else please stop and remember the word, acceptance. Your libido, not your partners, ALL YOURS!

So now we have accepted, you are ready to take action. The next step is to spend time thinking about what YOU (not your partner) actually like/love about sex or I like to call lovemaking. Is it the tenderness? The closeness to another soul? Does it make you feel dominant? Or alive? Or downright dirty?! This is so important!

Women have more of a mind/spirit connection to love making.

So once you have really thought about what you like/love about lovemaking next is to bring these thoughts into a weekly routine of thinking.

A weekly routine so to speak on thoughts about what you like/love about lovemaking! Haha sounds hilarious right. But no, trust me the more you think of it the more thoughts manifest and let me tell you, your missing mojo starts to stir again within you.

I suggest when you wake in the morning spend a couple of minutes thinking about some lovely sex memories or fantasies and then again perhaps once during the day then when you go to bed at night. Think sex!

The next step in activating a blossoming libido is to make yourself feel like a goddess!

Treat yourself to a new haircut, wax your sexy bits, manicure/pedicure whatever makes you look in the mirror and think, whoa baby I’m hot!

Wear clothes that accentuate your best body features. I know when I am feeling like a goddess I add lots of accessories to my look. It makes me feel really feminine, funky and really confident in myself. And yes all this from some accessories. We are all wonderfully different so do what makes you feel like the goddess you are.

There are some really effective natural libido herbs that have been used for thousands and thousands of years.

You are now ready!  Enjoy all your delicious lovemaking over the next few weeks!

Have you ever overcome your low libido, share how you did it in the comments below.

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  • I can take it or leave it. It’s nice when it happens but I won’t curl up and die if I never had it again


  • Loved reading this. Yet another non issue, or so we think, in today’s busy lives


  • Yes I have 100% it’s so sad :(


  • I only have lost the interest in it as my husband complains of being too tired, too busy, too fat to look at or even move also my daughter hogs my husband and does have jealousy…move on almost 2yrs i would prefer to concentrate on communication, handing hands, a kiss out of the blue or even offer to cook dinner.


  • Thank you for sharing your tips and suggestions.


  • I find lack of interest a problem at times. What I’ve found interesting though is the more I do it, the more I enjoy it and want to do it. The less I do it I got the opposite reaction


  • Lol ,loved the menopause comment, i feel the same.


  • I hate to say it but I disagree with you owning it entirely. you can be well in the mood and your partner does something that pushes you right out of it.


  • thanks for sharing these tips


  • Thanks for the very interesting article. Some really useful tips here.


  • It was an interesting read. I have to admit the title did catch my eye ;)


  • Another great article. Yes I do find myself not interested in sex as often anymore. Being a Mum of 5 children can make me feel very run down at times :/


  • Im menopausal. Giving men a pause


  • Thank you for talking about this VERY important topic


  • Thanks for this ,it’s one of the questions I’ve asked recently .So hard when you don’t feel like sex is important anymore .Cheers


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