A concerned step mum says her twelve-year-old stepdaughter is constantly lying and has discovered that she has a secret phone…
A concerned step mum has taken to Reddit to ask for advice about her twelve-year-old step daughter’s constant lies. The step mum said that she had always had a good relationship with her stepdaughter built on open and honest communication, but after confiscating her mobile phone recently, realised she had a second, secret phone.
The step mum said that her stepdaughter is not allowed technology in her room at night but has been sneaking it in any way. “My stepdaughter has really been ramping up the lying over the last couple of months,” she wrote. “We split custody 50/50 with her mum…I mention this because it makes consistency and routines incredibly difficult.”
After her step daughter repeatedly defied the rule, the step mum said she confiscated the phone but made an unexpected discovery. “I walked into her room after she went to sleep and she was on a phone!” the step mum said. “She hid it and wouldn’t give it to me saying it was ‘nothing’.” To make the whole situation even more frustrating, the step mum said that her step daughter would be at her mum’s for a week following the incident without any consequences for her actions.
At A Loss
With concerns about the young girl’s safety, the step mum admits she has considered taking drastic action. “I considered removing her bedroom door so she wouldn’t have the privacy to hide phones,” she said. “I know this is extreme but I don’t know how to get this across to her. What would you do?”
Comments on the post sympathised with the step mum’s situation. “What is her dad doing during all of this?” one forum user wrote. “Step out of the situation and let dad parent.” “Turn the wifi off or monitor devices on the network,” another suggested. “Don’t take the door off!”
With a greater understanding and awareness of the dangers online, we can completely understand where this step mum is coming from! While every child needs a little privacy, it can’t be at the expense of their safety.
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