I still remember my child carer days. When planning for a child. A boy. Setting up the home corner for his interests.
It was nice to see him engage with the dolls and hold them.
I am not a mum of boys, at all. But girls. But I have noticed while gender titles are becoming more morphed, that we do tend to give girls the dolls to care for.
I feel we expect a lot of males, to be caring and to be nurturing when they’re often not given a lot of opportunities to try or to feel this is really apart of their role as a male.
A practiced skill growing up.
That it can be expected by an older male figure, even female that the young boy be rough-housing or be called a “girl” if playing with dolls or blankets and doll.
In a modern era where men and women can have careers. Men and women can be at home with the children.
Some dads are brilliant with the kids and the best at running around for the after school activities.
But what opportunities as kids are males given to feel that these play opportunities are open to them? And not just on Tuesday/Thursday daycare days with the homecorner.
But as an integral part of their world. Open to them at school, at home, at the grandparents.
Boys Don’t Cry!
Domestic violence, which is an extreme topic but relevant to our society. Is this perhaps contributed by a lack of learning, growing up in the area of nurturing another human being. For boys. Encouraged more to be macho and to turn up the nose at dolls and girly things. To be tough on the footy field. To not cry.
Its certainly ok for the boys to be physical as kids, even encouraged to be, rather then expected to just turn into nurturing, connected partners and parents.
At high school there is generally the task of taking home “a baby doll” to look after for three days. But in the scheme of things it’s not really enough.
Could more activities be created? More encouragement to be a nurturing human being from a young age for the boys?
For sure, girls can reach for the girly things, instinctively alot of the time and boys go for the soccer field at lunch times. It’s their interests.
I do feel that boys could be assisted more, though with being able to be caring. Lessons on shared roles.
It is nice when a big brother is protective of his baby sister.
When a boy puts the baby doll to bed in the home corner at daycare.
I just think there could be more done in the way we talk to our young ones. The way in which we lead.
Old-school ways with the young boy being called a sissy for playing nicely with the girls and brushing their hair.
“What are you doing playing with the dolls?”
These statements are not OK. Hopefully phasing out.
Perhaps there could be more in the school curriculum for boys to have caring roles. A lot of it is instinctive to be more boisterous and in stronger physical strength but alot is learned behaviour. Messages given, over and over. To the boys.
Then again the boy and girl titles are becoming debatable in this day and age. Times are changing there, too.
Living as authentic-self.
Do you give you boys dolls to play with? Tell us in the comments below.