Hilary Duff has opened up about her decision to stop breastfeeding and pumping milk for her six-month-old daughter, Banks.

The actress shared a lengthy Instagram post about providing breast milk for her baby and the toll it’s taken on her as a working mother.

Hilary shared, “Pumping at work sucks. I had zero down time and am usually pumping in a hair and make up trailer while four hands work to get me ready for the next scene with lots of other people around.

“Even if I had the luxury to be in my own room, it’s not even considered a “break” because you have to sit upright for the milk to flow into the bottles!

“Plus you are having your damn nipples tugged at by an aggressive machine that makes an annoying sound, that echoes through your head day and night (I swear that machine and I had many conversations at midnight and 3 am)! Ttttthen having to find someplace to sterilize bottles and keep your milk cold (ok I’m done with that rant lol)!

“Anyway, I didn’t know this because with Luca I didn’t work until he was about nine months old, so I didn’t pump very often. Your milk supply drastically drops when you stop feeding as often and lose the actual contact and connection with your baby. So I was eating all the feunugreek goats butt blessed thistle fennel cookies/drops/shakes/pills I could get my hands on! It was maddening. (Does fenugreek make anyone else smell like maple syrup and rubber gloves?…not chill)

“With all of this complaining, I want to say I enjoyed (almost) every moment of feeding my daughter. Felt so lucky to be so close to her and give her that start. I know many women are not able to and for that I am sympathetic and very grateful that I could. For six wonderful months.
“But I needed a break. I was going to break. With the stress of a dropping milk supply and a baby that was getting bored or not caring about nursing when I was available to. I was sad and frustrated and feeling like a failure all of the time.

“When really I’m a bad ass rock star. Moms get high on feeling like superwoman…because we are! Doing too much, because we can!

“But somehow stuck on the feeling we can always do a little more! We are strong as hell over-achievers.

“I am amazed at all that we can do in one single day! That goes for myself, my mom friends, my mom, or my sister! I’m talking to you too mom, I don’t know who’s reading this.

“I wanted to share this because deciding to stop BFing was so emotional and hard. I thought about it ALL day everyday. It was a constant loop in my head. Weighing the pros and cons. And half of the time I wasn’t making any sense. It was about me, and not Banks at that point. I cried many times and felt so depressed while weening. I wasn’t myself at all.

“Something scary was hovering over my brain and my heart…the part of me that I know is smart and rational. The lows felt horrible. I was missing good time with my baby. But I was really missing that natural oxytocin high. Those chemicals are powerful hormones and no joke.

“I am happy to say that I haven’t fed or pumped in three days and it’s crazy how fast you can come out on the other side. I feel fine and happy and relieved and silly that I even stressed on it so hard. Banks is thriving and I get even more time with her and daddy gets to do more feeds! And mommy gets a tiny bit more sleep!

“Whether you are pre or postpartum. Or just a busy mom, You are a rockstar everyday for all that you do. Always putting yourself last and running a mile a minute…while carrying all of the bags lol

“Love you all and hope this helps anyone struggling! See you nursing bras until next time!”


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THIS ONE’S FOR THE LADIES Just a few thoughts that I wanted to share on Breast-feeding. Last week was my last week nursing Banks (my six month old) I am a working mom of two. My goal was to get my little girl to six months and then decide if I (and her of course) wanted to keep going. Let me tell you. Pumping at work sucks. I had zero down time and am usually pumping in a hair and make up trailer while four hands work to get me ready for the next scene with lots of other people around. Even if I had the luxury to be in my own room, it’s not even considered a “break” because you have to sit upright for the milk to flow into the bottles! Plus you are having your damn nipples tugged at by an aggressive machine that makes an annoying sound, that echoes through your head day and night (I swear that machine and I had many conversations at midnight and 3 am)! Ttttthen having to find someplace to sterilize bottles and keep your milk cold (ok I’m done with that rant lol)! Anyway, I didn’t know this because with Luca I didn’t work until he was about nine months old, so I didn’t pump very often. Your milk supply drastically drops when you stop feeding as often and lose the actual contact and connection with your baby (????). So I was eating all the feunugreek goats butt blessed thistle fennel cookies/drops/shakes/pills I could get my hands on! It was maddening. (Does fenugreek make anyone else smell like maple syrup and rubber gloves?…not chill) With all of this complaining, I want to say I enjoyed (almost) every moment of feeding my daughter. Felt so lucky to be so close to her and give her that start. I know many women are not able to and for that I am sympathetic and very grateful that I could. For six wonderful months. But I needed a break. I was going to break. With the stress of a dropping milk supply and a baby that was getting bored or not caring about nursing when I was available to. I was sad and frustrated and feeling like a failure all of the time. When really I’m a bad ass rock star. Moms get high on feeling like superwoman…because we are! Doing too much, because we can! KEEP READING in the comments below ????????♥️

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Hilary has been praised by her followers for her very honest and open description of the struggles of breastfeeding.

Quit shaming mums for their choices!

Pinky McKay recently jumped on the band wagon after Jessica Simpson shared her pride at producing some epic milk supply.

The mummy shamers soon jumped on Jess accusing her of implying that those who didn’t breastfeed were not successful.


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This is what success feels like ????

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Pinky pointed out that one thing (breastfeeding) is not covertly shaming another (formula feeding) – and she’s bang on the money.

Pink added, “No mother should be shamed for using formula if they need or want to for any reason. But a mother who has fought hard to get as much breastmilk into her baby as possible? Can we please for the love of God let her celebrate?

“A mother who shares her breastfeeding success deserves that moment because she worked her butt off to get there. And she is motivating other mothers to do the same. For so many mothers, it’s other nursing moms who keep them going – even more so than their doctors, family, or friends.

“And besides breastfeeding, can we please – as women – start to understand that sharing in someone else’s success does not detract from our own success? It’s enough that we have to fight the patriarchy each and every damn day; if we are fighting each other too, no one wins.”

Share your comments below


  • It was hard for me but I was able to do it for different times with each of my kids. As long as baby is healthy and well fed. It shouldn’t cost you your mental health, it will affect baby too.

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  • I must’ve been lucky, I successfully breast fed all my babies. I had sore boobs and suffered engorgement here and there. I absolutely loved it and was sad when it ended

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  • If its not working then there is no shame in stopping. Sometimes the stress of trying makes it impossible

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  • Some babies actually wean themselves even though the Mum still had plenty of milk.

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  • It’s ok to quit breastfeeding when you struggle, it’s not the end of the world or the end of your life or the end of your child’s life.

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  • I love her. She’s so honest. It really took its toll on me too

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  • Good on her for speaking up

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  • These choices are very emotional and can be very tough.


    • Absolutely! It can be an emotional roller coaster and sensitivity is definitely needed.

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  • It is best for her to make the decision that suits her and her baby without input from any trolls etc.

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  • Mothers need to make choices that work best for the well being of mother and child.
    Fed is always best.

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  • It’s a personal choice indeed. No need to shame anyone. The way she has to pump her milk while at work, seems so tiring. Well done for sharing her experience. I am sure it’s helping a lot of other mums!

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  • It was easy for me to breastfeed my son but he weaned at 7 months due to me not making enough milk (despite trying everything possible to increase it!) and I was devastated and shamed on some local mummy pages because I was giving up. I did what was right for my son, and the fact that he was more settled and happier after the change made me feel better.

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  • It really sucks that she even feels like she needs to justify it to anyone.

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  • I can relate to the struggles of breastfeeding. It was so difficult for my first and my second had a tongue tie. I was expressing with my second whilst trying to look after a toddler. It was so taxing on me mentally and physically. It was the hardest decision to stop but in the end it saved mine and my families sanity. My kids are both happy and healthy and that’s all that matters.

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  • It’s sad that she gave it up but if they are all happy, let them be. I breastfed my 1st for 2yrs and my 2nd is 8.5months, but I understand the stress. If I had to pump, I think I would’ve given up too. Even now, I dread the idea of taking time to pump.
    I agree with Pinky though, when a breastfeeding or pumping Mum posts a celebration, let them enjoy that success. It’s not shaming formula Mums, it’s all about being proud of what they have achieved. I never thought I’d be able to breastfeed, so to successfully feed 2 babies, I’m proud of myself, but don’t say so because I know some who would feel judged.

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