Bride feels betrayed after her close friend reveals pregnancy before her wedding.

A bride-to-be has taken to Reddit to share her frustration after finding out her close friend and bridesmaid will be six months pregnant on her big day The Daily Mail reports. Posting on the popular website, she asked readers whether she was right to be angry or if her reaction to the news was entirely selfish.

A Change Of Plans

The bridesmaid in question was responsible for planning the bachelorette party which the bride now worries will be changed to accomodate the pregnancy. “This bridesmaid was also planning my super secret bachelorette party that I know no details of, but I’m assuming it involved drinking that will probably either be changed or cancelled,” she said. The bride says she believes that members of the bridal party who become pregnant should immediately tell the bride due to the impact it can have on the day, from the organising of the ceremony, to the dresses and photographs. Despite attempting to explain her outrage, the post has since been deleted after a stream of comments criticising the bride for being a ‘bridezilla.’

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Life On Hold

Responses were quick to label the bride’s expectations as selfish. “It’s good that you’re entertaining the idea that this reaction is selfish,” wrote one commenter. “It means there’s hope you won’t bridezilla all over the place.” “You can’t ask someone to put their life on hold for your wedding,” wrote another. “You are being selfish.” Others pointed out that expecting someone to share news of their pregnancy immediately was unreasonable. “Many people wait until the first trimester is over to tell people…So no, your bridesmaid was not obligated to tell you anything.”

We think the whole thing is just ridiculous when both women have something exciting and wonderful to celebrate. If a pregnant bridesmaid is the only thing the bride has to worry about, she’s doing pretty well!

Do you think this bride is overreacting or has she got a point? Let us know in the comments.


  • I can understand the bride was looking forward to her super secret party and it’s natural to feel gutted when it might not happen. I think if the bridesmaid wasn’t going to do it she would tell the bride. The bridesmaid should make it about the bride whether she can drink or not anyway.


  • I think she’s over reacting. The party can still happen, I’m sure the pregnant bridesmaid will simply not drink, doesn’t mean no one else has to abstain


  • If she wasn’t past her first trimester than I totally under her not telling the bride till later. So many people miscarriage and it’s a very personal thing to deal with.
    If she was past that stage when asked to be in the bridal party then yes i would have told the bride about being pregnant.
    I guess we will never know both sides of the story


  • I think the bride is a bit out of line. No wonder the bridesmaid was a bit scared to tell her.


  • If the bridesmaid was likely to go into labour during the wedding I would be very worried. Then I might ask her to re-consider where it is safe for her to be a bridesmaid on a date so close to her due date. Bridesmaids stand for what seems to be a long time at the service. She could be uncomfortable sitting in one spot for too long.


  • That’s just being selfish, everyone has their own lives.


  • Wow. And I thought you asked really close friends to be your bridesmaid.. and I didn’t realise that them getting pregnant changes that !


  • I think it would look lovely to have a pregnant bridesmaid in the bridal party.


  • Just because she’s pregnant doesn’t mean she is no longer your best friend and can’t be a bridesmaid. I’d hope that you were happy for her. Why does there have to be a bachelorette party anyway.


  • She should have said something to the bride. I told a friend I couldn’t be her bridesmaid at her wedding because I was trying to get pregnant. In the end I was 3 months pregnant at her wedding, no real bump to show but I’m glad I was honest with her.


  • Talk about over reacting to a situation – social media should be banned at times.


  • My brides maid was 7 months pregnant, we were so happy for her! We got married on her birthday so at the reception we had a pair of slippers for her to put on and be more comfortable so was so excited by something so small!


  • Shes over reacting!


  • I was pregnant for my hens, my maid of honour had already organised a cocktail evening and I just happily spent time with people while they drank.


  • Total bridezilla. Don’t know why people get so caught up in it that it ruins relationships


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