A mum of two year old twins shares her story to help other families going through a similar situation after she was told one twin would never make it.

Jami Marie shared her story on Facebook and has gone viral with nearly 160,000 shares on her post.

She writes, “10 weeks. That’s how far along I was when I found out I was having twins.”

“11 weeks is when I was guaranteed I wouldn’t be having twins.”

Jami continued, “Baby B is not going to make it and you’re putting Baby A in serious jeopardy the longer you wait to terminate.”

“They must have thought I was crazy. I didn’t cry. I didn’t even hardly react other than to very adamantly stick with my gut.

“Appointment after appointment…doctor after doctor….boy did they put the pressure on. Almost as if they would receive some sort of commission. None of that mattered. I was pregnant with 2 LIVING babies. I sure as hell wasn’t going to just cut the chord because it sounded like a good idea.

Difficult to share the joy with friends and family

Jami shared she found it really difficult to talk to people about her twins.

“Now don’t get me wrong. It was pure torture. I was basically waiting for my baby to die. No one knew. People just knew that I was pregnant with twins but talking about it was hell.”

“When someone would bring up what my future was going to look like, it was all I could do to not crumble because what they didn’t know was that one and maybe even both of my babies were going to die. After all, the Drs assured me this. More than once.

“But then. Day by day…week by week we made it to THIRTY-FOUR weeks. And the scariest day of my life arrived.

Delivery day!

“I delivered two of the most beautiful, perfect babies I’ve ever laid my eyes on.

“Baby A tipping the scales at 4lbs 15oz and Baby B – the baby who “will never ever make it”…the baby in utero with 0% chance of survival – defeated all odds and proved a strength I wouldn’t believe if I didn’t see with my own eyes, blessed this world at 2lbs 9oz and not only never needed a ventilator, but ONLY needed oxygen and a feeding tube.

“Baby A spent 16 days in the NICU and Baby B spent 29.

“And here we are. Almost 2.5 years later.

To think of how different my life could have been had I listened to any single one of those doctors.

“To think the day I delivered them I could have STILL made a different choice?! I can’t understand. And I don’t want to.”

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Potential complications with twin pregnancy

The majority of twin pregnancies result in healthy babies. But there are some complications that are slightly more common in twin pregnancies.

If you’re carrying more than one baby, your risk of having a miscarriage is higher than with a single pregnancy, particularly if your babies are identical.

It’s impossible to say exactly how much higher this risk is, as many early miscarriages are never identified.

As with any pregnancy, most miscarriages in multiple pregnancies happen in the first 12 weeks. Sometimes only one baby is lost.

Premature labour can also be an issue with about half of all women expecting twins give birth before 37 weeks.

Pregnancy-induced high blood pressure (gestational hypertension) occurs in 25 per cent of multiple pregnancies, compared to five to six per cent of pregnancies in the general population.

Pre-eclampsia often develops in about seven per cent of pregnancies in the general population, and is almost three times as likely to occur if you’re carrying twins. The condition also tends to develop earlier and be more severe in women carrying twins or more.

Low birth weight is also common because they have to share nutrients and living space, newborn twins tend to be smaller than single babies. Even full-term twins often weigh less than 5-1/2 pounds each, making them vulnerable to a variety of health problems.

Read more on the topic:

Mum seeks advice after doctor told her to abort her baby

Why I am Glad I Didn’t Know About My Sons Illness Before Birth

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  • Glad she stuck to her gut feeling. they are two beautiful boys.

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  • Glad she did as she wanted, the doctors do not know everything. Babies really fight hard to survive and they deserve a chance to live their lives. There are many reasons given why you should get rid of your baby but they never offer good reasons to go on. It is up to the mother to weight the odds and discuss it with her parent what they want.

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  • Good on her!

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  • I know what she means about it being hard to talk about the abides before they were born.

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  • Having twins is hard work and the pregnancy is hard as well

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  • Amazing outcome for both babies!

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  • Fantastic outcome, two gorgeous kids. Sometimes you’ve got to wonder with doctors, they more than anyone should know that any number of things can and do happen, it’s not always cut and dried.

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  • I’m so pleased she went with her gut instinct. She has two beautiful boys.

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  • Gorgeous kids and I hope she still trusts her instincts.

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  • You have 2 very handsome young boys. So glad you didn’t listen to the doctors but wish you did have someone to talk to outside of family.

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  • An amazing story- doctors don’t know everything! What beautiful boys!

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  • What perfect looking boys they are. Just beautiful.

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  • So happy for this lady who trusted her mothers instinct, so powerful is it that it overrides the advice of doctors, doctors are often wrong, after all most of it is a guessing game, there are always miracles that happen. I often think maybe we are over doing things with pregnant women, always checking to see if something is wrong, you usually know if there is. And often nature has a way of fixing things up before birth, yes it may be a risk but isn’t all births risky. Two gorgeous boys destined to be someone, beautiful story.

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  • I wonder what reason the Medical Professionals reckon would be the cause of one baby not surviving unless one was taking all the nutrition and the baby not appearing to be growing at all.

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  • What beautiful little boys they are too!

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