It’s difficult to believe it’s almost May, one month from June, the middle of the year!

For me, it’s been a busy year so far. But in a good way.

Last year (and the year prior) weren’t so good.  They were tough.  Real tough.

A blurry haze of tiredness, anxiety, sadness and frustration, peppered, of course, with lashings of joy brought by my children, family and friends.

So when 2013 reared its head…  I decided this was the year to dedicate some time and energy to myself.

I made a decision to refocus on my health and wellbeing, both of which had suffered the effects of neglect.

Anyone who knows me well knows that I’ve always been a lazy eater (hello packaged goods) and a lazy exerciser (as in not doing any).

So I decided to begin with food, starting with an increase in vegetables.

I steamed them, stir-fried them, grated them into muffins, ate them raw – I’ve eaten more fresh vegetables in the past two months than I have in the past year.

I also started cooking.  As opposed to, say, opening jars of pre-made sauce or popping frozen food on an oven tray.

Making toast, munching on fruit bars and buying take-away always seemed so much easier – no mess, no fuss and, as a freelance journalist and full-time mum, more time to spend managing the household, writing and looking after the kids.

Too bad I was constantly tired and worn-out.

So I made the decision to invest in my health and realised there is time, life doesn’t have to be a race.

And as it turned out, any extra time that was required to cook and clean dishes was well worth it as I noticed a dramatic increase in my energy within a month.

Despite being up multiple times a night with my kids I felt significantly less lethargic and tired, meaning I was more willing to play the sorts of games that my little boys enjoy during the day.

But the difference wasn’t just physical, I felt better mentally also – cheerful and happy and bouncy – like the old me, the real me.

With all the extra energy I decided exercise was next.  After always claiming I didn’t have the time or energy, I now did have the energy – so decided to make the time too.

But without the luxury of childcare and a husband who works long hours, gym or outside walks simply weren’t an option.

So, I began by doing a few sit-ups and push-ups in the bathroom while the kids had their bath.

The boys enjoyed watching and wanted to join in so I switched to mornings before we had our breakfast and got dressed for the day. My children became part of the routine, which I’ve increased over time.

With my mind clear and spirit free, my mental energy soared and so I decided to fulfill a dream I’d long since had – at 31 years of age, I would begin piano lessons.

With the encouragement of my parents, I stopped using my children or my husband’s business travel or being too old as an excuse and found a teacher who could come to my home after 7.30pm to teach me on an old keyboard we originally bought for the kids.

I’ve told myself if I stick with it until my birthday in June, I’ll reward myself with an actual piano.

Feeling revitalized and alive (and able to stay up past 8.30pm) I’ve also taken the plunge and enrolled to return to study.

I’m indulging a passion and, from next week, will be on my way to becoming a Naturopath – studying online, in my own time, at my own pace.

For me, the most wonderful thing about all of these changes, is that nothing has interfered with the amount of time spent with my children, or my writing – in fact the quality of both have improved.

But the most important lesson I’ve learnt is that it’s never too late to make a change. And despite the demands of parenting, you can find time for you – you just have to think outside the square and make a commitment to you.


  • Thanks for sharing! I think sometimes we feel so isolated & overwhelmed as stay home mums it’s easy to fall into a rut & forget about looking after yourself! I’m feeling a little this way myself of late but, like you trying to re-introduce healthier habits little by little. Good luck with your studies – sounds like a great way to go forward.

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  • if you believe you can why not have a try better than spending your life saying i wish i had of..

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  • I would love to not be so tired – I do need to get back into a routine again, just working F/T and looking after a houshold has taken its toll.

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  • I joined bootcamp which is run at nites near my house. It is my only real me time and it is awesome! I get fit, have made great friends and get a much deserved break from my busy life of a mum of 2 sets of twins:)

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  • Thanks for sharing and giving hope to all of us! It’s never too late!!!

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  • What a lovely article. It’s nice to do things for yourself despite always feeling like there’s other things that need to be done.

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  • I have only just recently started doing boot camp for myself i havnt been able to exercise for a while due to bulging disc problem but have got over the fact that i have to do something and put up with what pain goes with it and to tell you all im just loving it im fitter healthier and loving my clothes fitting me better i love reading all the reviews on the health section and love hearing what people do

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  • I always try to make me time to do exercise on Sunday. I feel great!

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  • i ll made some time for me tomm

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  • thanks for great tips and information …

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  • I made some time for myself today – went out and had lunch with some old work mates and then ended my “me” time with a nice massage to help soothe my aching back and muscles … Oh how I wished it went on for longer though.

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  • Great article. While it’s quick to eat quick jar meals, it’s not good for the waist line or health mentally. I have a newborn and I can see a difference in myself when I take the time to have a walk or cook healthy food.

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  • Congrats on your new inspiration and new life! You are a wonderful motivation for other mums who are stuck in a rut.

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  • You are still young at 31 so you will have plenty of time to make changes in your life. Well done on studying Naturopathy, my friend is a naturopath and I remember her struggles with it, but she survived and is a fabulous Naturopath.

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  • well done and very well said – its never too late to make a change……

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