We do what we feel best for our child and our situation. It is not One size fits all.

As a mum who had difficulty feeding my own child by breast this would have been so relieving and helpful to be told cause i stressed and worried got so upset that my son kept crying and crying and he wasn’t getting anything if much from me. When i did do a bottle eventually both me and guy were happier and healthier.

I think part of the problem is that there are so many different ideas/advices/opinions out there, that for a new insecure mum it might be hard to find her way and own style.

Social media has a lot to do with your problems. Thank heavens I managed to do without it and still do.

Good comeback Cath, good on you.

You go Cath. Faceless critiquing and trolling. I love that Cath’s priority is for new Mums to feel good about themselves. That in turn will make them better, happier Mums. Keep on doing what you’re doing so well, Cath.

As a mum of 2 I thank you and hope there will be many more promoting bottle as well as breast. As when I had my first after getting home from the hospital my milk hadn’t yet come in and my new son was screaming his little head off cause he was hungry I was upset and frustrated that he wouldn’t latch for me to try and satisfy him and because I was emotional my new born became even more upset we were both crying together. My husband said why don’t i give him a bottle let you calm down and he can feed but i didnt do it until my mother came over and said the same thing to me because I felt like I wasn’t being a good mother not being able to feed my own baby the way I wanted to the way all the nurses said was best. After that I mixed fed I was happier he was happier my husband got to bond more with his new born son more than he would have if I just breast fed. Afterf 6 weeks I couldn’t breastfeed any more as I couldn’t produce enough for him it kills me that I couldn’t do it longer but my son is still happy healthy and is a little smarty bum. I continued to do this with my now new 4 month old son and he is the same happy and healthy growing like a weed. Breast may be best but fed is better!

It never ends. At the end of the day, us mums are free to do what we feel is best. I’ll just leave the midwives to cat fight amongst themselves, what they think is right is no concern of mine.

None of the advice in the article above sounds peculiar to me – why on earth would anyone be upset by it enough to be nasty. If families are finding the advice helpful and there is not harm caused then leave them be.

I don’t know her indeed. Sounds like she does her job with a passion and has a clear own opinion. I would be careful with advising my own opinion on mums who just gave birth.

Experience doesn’t automatically make you right. But nor should we criticise without ring sure we know all the details.

fed is best full stop

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  • • mom93821 replied
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  Fed is best and happy mums and bubs.

People are very quick to judge without knowing the circumstances. At least in person they tend to keep it to themselves, online is a different story.

Each to their own. Share your thoughts on raising children but the parents make the final decision.

I don’t like midwives forcing formula on mums, especially in the first couple of days whrn mums are trying so hard to work it out. But if a mum wants to bottle feed at any point then the midwives and MCH nurses need to be able to give good advice to help them