My daughter is 3 this month and I have a son who just turned 1. She is the best big sister (apart from occasional, normal sisterly spat) but I am struggling with her behaviour when she doesn’t get her own way – kicking, hitting, biting, yelling and talking back and crying. She has a huge meltdown. She hates being put her room for time out and will run, and do the above mentioned things to avoid it, except listen. I’ve tried speaking sternly, roughly, softly, I’ve tried not talking. Nothing seems to be working, Looking for any suggestions please? Generally she is a bright, happy, healthy little girl who is good at sharing and playing nicely


Posted by golanth99@hotmail.com, 10th March 2014


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  • Tricky situation, I too have a ‘volatile’ little one. I try and ask her to take some big breaths and behave like the big girl she really is, ‘only babies carry on when they are upset, big girls talk about it’ might come back to bite me on the ass one day, but it often works.



  • Very tricky. Going through a similar sort of thing myself with my 3yo. So no advice just yet but totally feeling your pain, hang in there x



  • Sorry i dont have advice but my 11 month old has already started acting like your daughter. Im at my wits end on top of that he wont sleep more than 15 minutes. Its a slow torture.



  • we all get cranky at times, maybe a cranky spot (far enough away from others to let it out. I was stopped as a child getting angry and still cannot do it. There are times in life when it is appropriate



  • put her in a chair and make her sit there, do not give her treats for a day or two so she knows what she is doing is wrong



  • try a rewards chart . this is a hard on though .. i hope thing work out



  • Its a tricky ang and I think communication is the key, she cant yet fully express or even understand why she feels the way she does, perhaps you could try talking about emotions more. What makes us happy, sad, angry, scared and what we can do when we feel this way, good luck, you sound pretty switched on!



  • talk to her tell her that your sad when she acts like this



  • there are some good comments here



  • Maybe try telling her how her behaviour makes you feel ?



  • Tantrums are when a child is overwhelmed take her out of the situation and come back to it later



  • Keep Doing What Your Doing, Just Don’t Give In To Her, She Will Soon Learn To Listen To You



  • I would still put her in her room find a way so she can’t come out. You must stick to one type of way to deal with this, you changing tracts is confusing her. The hardest part is to be strong and stronger than her.


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