So I had my last baby 6 years ago. My lovely friend has offered to host a baby shower for me, I wasn’t going to but could be fun? do other people have baby showers for a second child?


Posted by mom63821, 9th February 2018


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  • I had one for my first which I planned, and probably wouldn’t do it again for my second but if someone else offered to plan it I would be open to the idea! Although the second time round I would probably but have a small get together rather than the whole schbang!



  • I had a baby shower for my first child but unfortunately she was stillborn however I did go on to have 2 beautiful boys but refused all offers of another shower as I personally felt it was wrong



  • I didn’t have a shower for my first, so when my friends threw me a surprise shower for my second bub I was so happy! Every baby is worth celebrating!



  • I had a surprise one thrown for me when I was pregnant with my third. They weren’t a huge thing when I had my first 2, there is 9 years difference between my second and third.



  • I personally didnt. I feel like a baby shaower is a special occasion. Being 6 years since your last i would host a small shower.



  • i had a babyshower for my twin daughters, it was actually really helpful as im still to this day a single mother and all the gifts i got i actually used and was very appreciative to those and their gifts, :)



  • I have heard of people starting to have ‘Baby-Qs’ (a spin in the word BBQ), and having both parents there as well as friends and family. It’s more a chance for everyone to catch up and celebrate the baby that is coming. It feels less like a gift grab, especially if you make it clear that gifts are completely optional and the main purpose is to see friends and family :)



  • You can totally have another baby shower! Even if it’s just hanging out with your friends for tea and cake, celebrating you and your new baby is a great memory to make



  • I am pregant with my fifth baby and habe never had a baby shower. I got rid of everything after baby number 3 as i wasnt expecting to have any more. But i did it all alone with no help. Having one would have been nice but i am not going to have one this time round either. Its up to the individual



  • To be honest I personally don’t do baby shower parties I have a very busy lifestyle and a baby shower requires a lot of organisations and preparations I just don’t have time for it if you have time it’s great will certainly be fun .



  • I only have one child and never had a baby shower which I kind of regret! I’m not sure if it’s something that’s only traditionally done for your first born but I say why not have another baby shower if you can! I guess at a first shower there’s the opportunity for a lot of other mothers to give you advice on what to expect, but I think maybe a second time around means it’s a good opportunity for you to update people on how things are this time around, show off the new nursery or even just let aunts and grandmas know what you’re planning after the birth and when you feel will be a good time for people to visit your new baby, things like that :) If your friend is offering to help then that’s really nice, I’d say yes and make it about the chance to get together if you don’t want too much emphasis on presents.



  • A friend offered to host one for me, but it wasn’t something I wanted to do. It’s entirely up to you. I don’t see anything wrong with it.



  • Never had a baby shower. My thoughts are….it’s my baby, it’s up to me to provide fir it



  • If someone is willing to do one for you go for it. I never had a baby shower because my first was a stillborn, second came early, third/fourth (twins) was on bedrest in hospital and fifth… well I had everything by then. My friends had a baby shower for each of their babies before they were born, it’s up to you if you want one as well.



  • If you feel comfortable having another shower and your guests are more than excited for you to do one, then go for it! :)


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