We had organised a Secret Santa party for the girls (nearly 4 year old twins), and invited some of the children from child care that they like. We are only new to the area. My trusty old friends are coming. The problem is none of the children invited from the child care centre are coming. One of the twins is so excited. What do I tell her, without breaking her little heart? Thanks.

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Posted anonymously, 12th December 2013


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  • I would focus on the positive that your good old trusty friends will be there and bring that with a hooray, while telling their child care friends can’t make it in a neutral and accepting way. Not a big deal, there will be friends and party’s in the future. The less emotional -as being bad news- you bring it towards your children, the easier they will take it.



  • Just explain that the kids have other things on and couldn’t make it, but they would love to come another time



  • That’s sad that none of them are coming. Just tell her the truth.



  • It is good reading the comments and interest to this!



  • It’s hard, but just tell them the truth and explain why the friends can’t come. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for.



  • How did it go? I hope she is ok.



  • Thats really hard, i dont envy your position at all



  • that is a shame that no one from child care are coming, I would ask WHY



  • i hope she is okay



  • I too was hoping that there was an update on how you handled it. It seems to be the sad reality at the moment that parents don’t respond to any party invites and make decisions on the day as to whether they will go or not. Makes it very hard to plan. A friend who was organising a party for her child and had no one reply other than close friends and family did something that I don’t know if I’d have the courage to do. She changed the venue to an indoor play centre and left a note on the front door saying “Hi, if you’ve come for the party we’re sorry, but as no one replied we decided to do something else. I’m sure you’ll understand that we were a little too busy to notify you. Have a nice day!”



  • Hope they didn’t take it too harshly! Just explain that Christmas is a very busy time and everyone is running around like crazy. Maybe you can ask the childcare centre to have a present swap day so they could still have their secret Santa next year.



  • We had this happen when we invited childcare friends to our party too. I think sometimes the invites don’t even get home, or parents don’t really consider childcare friends as real friends :(



  • oh no thats a hard one. im not sure what you would do.



  • Do we get an update? hopefully she took it well!



  • how did it go, how how did you tell her


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