We had organised a Secret Santa party for the girls (nearly 4 year old twins), and invited some of the children from child care that they like. We are only new to the area. My trusty old friends are coming. The problem is none of the children invited from the child care centre are coming. One of the twins is so excited. What do I tell her, without breaking her little heart? Thanks.

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Posted anonymously, 12th December 2013


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  • I hope it went well. Maybe explain that all the children were so busy with their mummies and daddies?



  • How did it all go in the end?



  • Hope their party went well.



  • I am sure in the end they will have fun whatever happens as long as there’s cake and presents.



  • Hope your children enjoyed the party. Sadly this happens at any age. My daughter organised a New Year’s Party and only 2 out of 10 showed up even after saying they’d all be there.



  • Hopefully it all went well.. poor bubba x



  • Did you end up finding a good way to tell them?



  • i hope she is feeling better



  • how did you tell her and how did she take it, must off been sad :(



  • How did you end up telling them?



  • I was thinking about this the other day and wondered how you had gotten on? Hope your party was a success!



  • A party is still a party, and it is sad that the other kids aren’t able to make it, but you can still make the party fun for your girls. I would be honest with the kids and tell them that everyone is busy, and as much as they wanted to come to the party, the other kids just weren’t able to make it this year. I hope you still have a great time!



  • My daughter’s birthday is on Christmas eve, we have her party at the end of November, early December as otherwise no-one would come. Sadly that is the way it is, everyone is too busy especially at this time of the year. Why not organise another get together (doesn’t have to be formal, just the park will do) in January when things have calmed down. This way when you tell the girls that the other kids are sad that they couldn’t come, they will have something else to look forward to. I find this really helps them forget the disappointment.



  • There little girls on the day they will not care less okay they would be excited who ever comes really. Omg. I told ours we are having a party we put chocolate biscuits on a plate. Some chips. A few lollies a can of lemonade each. Wiggles dance music. And she was squealing. We had the best time… Oh it was her and me. We turn the coffee table in to a party table…



  • Well there is nothing you can tell her but the truth.
    You just have to tell her that at this time of year people are so very busy and sadly they just cant make it. Its a shame but im sure they will still have a good time.
    Perhaps next time it might pay to sound other parents out first before telling the kids…that way you avoid disappointment


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