Daughter's 3rd birthday? - Mouths of Mums

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My daughter will be turning 3 in June. We don’t have friends with small children, relatives with small children and she doesn’t attend day care (therefore doesn’t really have any little kiddie friends). She occasionally attends a small playgroup but is shy and sticks close to mum rather than socialising with other children. I have a 5 yr old son as well who she has a great relationship with. So far we havent given her a ‘party’ as such but instead taken the family on an outing to a wildlife park etc on her special day. I am wondering what other mums think. Should the family just take her on an outing again this year or should we put on a party, invite children who she really doesn’t have a connection with and hope they attend? Thanks

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- - RA1234756 said
  - 06 Jun 2023
    2:51 pm
If it wasnt what she wants, dont bother
- - cassy26 said
  - 12 Mar 2022
    9:41 am
Honestly I’d stick to family/an outing until she starts kindergarden/preschool. Once they do, the parties seems to be pretty much nonstop for a while – as I’ve found in the younger grades they invite the whole class..
- - mom169284 said
  - 25 Feb 2016
    1:49 pm
Keep it simple and comfortable for her. There are plenty of years left of parties. If she is not comfortable the whole thing was be extremely exhausting for you and her. If she loves animals wildlife park will entertains her.
- - mom150983 said
  - 09 Sep 2015
    4:31 pm
Having a party might be a goodway to get to know the play group kids in her familar context
- - mom111362 said
  - 16 Mar 2015
    1:19 am
at 3 she wouldn’t really remember, saying that im a huge one for parties and my 3 year old is obsessed with them
- - abraham1 said
  - 19 Jan 2015
    8:30 pm
My daughter was like that just invite kids like her organize activity they can all have fun and mix in together
- - ozstarlett said
  - 30 Jul 2014
    2:34 pm
I think it would be perfectly fine to go on a family outing again particularly if there is no-one to have a party with.
- - nida saeed said
  - 24 Jun 2014
    9:08 am
have you celebrated her birthday…how did it go? do let us know
- - Happymum-2 said
  - 21 May 2014
    7:47 pm
I would have a talk to the mums that aare at playgroup and see if they will come for an hour or so
- - shoni89 said
  - 29 Apr 2014
    10:12 am
We usually had family bbqs rather than big parties. Parties started once they got to kindy
- - fruitwood said
  - 27 Apr 2014
    12:12 am
I would enjoy a family day out together. Once she starts school, she’ll have lots of friends and be able to have a big party then.
- - fizgig said
  - 21 Apr 2014
    3:35 pm
Ask her what she would like to do! Wait until next year when she is at kinder for a party so she has kids she would like to have!
- - christial said
  - 14 Apr 2014
    10:31 pm
Do something that SHE will enjoy! If that means having a family outing ‘birthday party’ then so be it. No point having kids at her part if she isn’t going to enjoy it.
- - mouse said
  - 01 Apr 2014
    3:12 pm
I would invite some of the playgroup mums with their kids for a small party
- - memo said
  - 30 Mar 2014
    2:25 pm
Up until 5, a cake party at playgroup is excellent even the shy ones love the excitement of the candles and cake. No pressure on the children. Once they start preschool etc, have a cake in class and invite her special friends for a birthday party or include the whole class whatever your daughter wants and within your budget.. Ask her, our kids did not expect a party every year or were happy with taking a few mates to the movies and back home for pizza and cake/icecream.