I am a devastated mother at this time my child has 4 children and is a drug addict I have tried to help yet you can’t unless they want help. At this stage he doesn’t. The kids suffer his wife suffers and I am ready for a breakdown. The lies the promises when will this nightmare end.

Posted anonymously, 4th December 2017

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  • So hard ! You can’t really help indeed, unless he sees the problem and want help himself indeed. And unless there’s an acute danger, there is no reason for involuntary treatment.
    What you can do is taking care for yourself: take distance when it gets too much for you. Encourage his wife and children to do the same. I know you probably don’t want to encourage a broken marriage, but the damage he’s causing now can be more damaging then a broken marriage and could cause him to get motivated to get help.

  • You need to look after your- self as well …if you go down you are little help for your son.
    Drug and alcohol addiction are hard on the person and so very hard on the family and I wish you and your family all the very best and hope things improve soon.
    Here are two web sites that may offer some information and help and I strongly advise a talk to your GP and services like Lifeline and the Salvation Army.
    Much love and gentle hugs to you. xx

  • You need to find support for yourself, and also treat him as though he does not have an addiction, take him nutritious meals, important as most addictions are made worse from lack of nutrients. There are many resources like AA for drug addicts to. My brother had a problem for years so I understand from my mother’s point of view what she went through and supported him when he needed it the most.

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