Hello!

My 16 month old just won’t lie down at night. She will often wake up and jump around for 3 hours. She kicks, outs her foot in my throat, slaps me or just jumps around on me. I don’t agree with controlled crying so I would love some gentle tips to get her to lie still.


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  • Just keep lying her down every time she gets up, be gentle and reassuring


  • Poor mumma! My 2.4 year old does this. :( I just try and be as nice as I can give him a big cuddle and if he smacks me, kicks me etc I will sternly say please stop. He normally comes around, good kuck


  • I actually mean at night she is happy, full of life and doesn’t seem to be in pain. I’m not upset that she doesn’t sleep through the night and don’t expect her to at this age. I refuse to go down the sleep consultant track. We went to Tresilian with my first child and it is the worst thing we have done. Her sleep was great for a month. Now we have a 3.5 year old with sleeping anxiety. It’s more that she is awake for 3 hours in the night jumping about our bed and laughing. She does get more unsettled during her milestones but it is not a wonder week for her. I will try Panadol in case she has some discomfort and I have been using Hylands when she seems to be in pain. She definitely gets worn out during the day. Both my little ones are crazy nutbars! They require a bit to settle and running them about too much actually just gets them overtired (and even harder to settle).


  • It sounds like her teeth could be giving her trouble only at night, she may just need a little panadol to ease the discomfort. She may feel that when she is running around it doesn’t hurt as much so when she is stopping for bed the only thing she can think of to eas the pain is to keep active. Good luck I hope it gets better for you.


  • There could be endless reasons to why she is doing this but you could try to wear her out in the day and just keep her really active and running around outside. If she is exhausted she will sleep through. If she doesn’t it is something else causing it? Good luck I know it can be really hard.


  • it may be her teeth that are waking her, they often seem more painful at night, when laying down. re the jumping. Sounds like a stage to me, have you tried saying nothing and just laying her back down again.


  • My child gets aggressive with me when she is tired – pulls my hair, throws my glasses, tries to poke me in the eye… when she is like this I lut her in her sleep sack and she’ll happily go to sleep, she has a dummy. A friend hired a sleep consultant – if it’s ongoing it might be something to consider. Some people swear their child gets unsettled before they reach a milestone but I never found this


  • I find a gentle massage on the back or light tickle/rub over the back and her temples sends her to sleep quickly and she ends up sleepinmg anything up to 7 hours straight


  • Thanks so much. Nope, she is not getting enough sleep throughout the day. She is teething but she doesn’t seem to be in pain. She is laughing and happy. We are outside most of the day, rarely watch any TV, and do lots of running about. She is breastfed but this is not helping to settle her. It might just be one of those “this too shall pass” things I guess.


  • Is your daughter getting too much sleep during the day? This may impact on her night sleeping pattern. Try a morning nap and no afternoon nap. Make sure your daughter is tired enough when bedtime comes around. I believe in lots of fresh air so off to the park and have her walk around as much as possible in the late afternoon. Play will balls and have her run get the balls. Push her toys around. After Dinner-time bath-time and before bed give her some warm milk. Warm milk helps with sleep it contains tryptophan, thought to have sedative effects, works well with my kids. Make sure your lights in your home are kept dim and TV is kept to low. This helps to relax your daughter. Just a thought she may be teething and it’s at night that she feels the pain. Check this and if that’s the case a little pain relief and a cuddle maybe small bottle of milk and back to bed. Best of luck.

    There is no right way to encourage your child to settle and sleep through the night. You need to choose an approach that will work for you and your family.


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