My son lives close by with his partner, his 5 year old daughter whom he has custody of (her mum lives on the other side of the country, leaving mediation half way through) and his other 2 daughters. His partner is gorgeous, she is a fantastic mum to all 3 girls, but my son is suffering depression but won’t get help. He is becoming more and more emotional, he gets cranky very fast, usually taking his frustration out at me or his partner. She does everything for him and he can be quite cruel. He asks for help at times, but then won’t do anything to help himself and he gets more and more irritable. I really want to help him, but then I know he needs to help himself first. He needs to see the doctor. He says he will go, she makes an appointment for him, then he doesn’t go. He has been getting a bit of part time work, but when he doesn’t feel like going, he just doesn’t go. If his partner doesn’t ring, then the boss doesn’t know until he just doesn’t show up.
He loves his daughters and can be a fantastic dad, he is lonely, really doesn’t have any friends, he is used by so many so called friends. My son has been to hell and back. His last girlfriend said she was pregnant, hid her pregnancy in baggy clothing. Then gave us a picture of an ultrasound, said it was a boy, they were going to name it after grandad, then at almost 9 months, she came around, said she had been in hospital and lost the baby, the baby was stillborn. I wanted to do a little ceremony in the backyard, then after a bit of concern, found out she had never been pregnant, lied to everyone. My son was devastated. He never really has got over that. He wants a son so bad as he is the last of the family line, if he doesn’t have a son to carry the name it ends with him. I don’t understand how someone can be so cruel. The scan picture was taken off the internet of an aborted baby. We all haven’t recovered as she has convinced her mother that she lost the baby at 6 months, and I have the ashes and won’t give them back. What does a person do to protect your son being tormented like that, she is a very sick girl.
She is now married with 2 kids, and he is still suffering.
Has anyone got any ideas on how I can help and/or if I should try to help or stand back.
I love all my children and grandchildren and it breaks my heart when i have any children suffering. xxx
Posted by dee lindsay, 5th January 2015