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My daughter hates getting her hair brushed and put up. How can I make it easier on the both of us?


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  • Try a hair oil – put some on your hands and run it through her hair before you start brushing. Hopefully it will allow the brush to go through more easily.


  • We told her that if she didn’t choose to let me brush it, she would need to cut it short. She wanted longer hair, so starting letting me brush it.


  • My youngest has Down syndrome and having sensory issues it always has been an issue. I dilute conditioner with water in a spray bottle and put the iPad in front her, use a soft hair brush and don’t have her hair loose (so less knots). I made a social story about brushing hair and read it before I start. Watching a wee video about brushing hair can help too.


  • Spray in conditioner so that it’s easier for the brush to go through – and rewards for bring good


  • With my daughter she has autism so this has always been an issue. We got a softer bristle brush and its a wide paddle one too. I let her drush her hair before I brush it. Also I hold her hair flat against her head and firm and as I brush it don’t pull her hair from her scalp as much. And if bad. Put conditioner through it then brush. X


  • Have you got a tangle teaser and spray leave in conditioner? The tangle teaser brushes are from hairdressers and get the knots out without pulling their hair and spray in conditioner make her hair nice


  • Let her have a go and then you have a go. Use some johnsons and johnsons spray! Let her partake ask her how she wants her hair. Buy some new hair stuff let her choose.


  • try giving her a brush and you one too,then brush your hair she may mimic you.my grand daughter who is five asked if she could do my hair,so I let her and she did it with care.Just a suggestion hope it helps too, I learn a lot from children it is true


  • Also; get her to show you how she likes it being brushed too. Let her brush your hair too!


  • I suggest you get her to choose her own special brush; ensure it is a good quality brush too; the bristles do make a difference. Some kids have incredibly sensitive scalps; so take it slow and easy. Also; get her to choose her own hair ties and get her to hold them during hair brushing as it occupies her. Good Luck!


  • Glad you asked, I am having the same problem with Miss 3 and I’d love ideas on how to deal with it.


  • sit down on the floor with your daughter behind you on the lounge. Get her to brush your hair. Do this at night. Then swap over. If she doesn’t want her hair brushed keep going with your daughter brushing your hair. You need to make brushing hair a nice experience. Not stressful or rushed.


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