Inlaws are the types to buy everything. They didn’t respect our one good gifts or books rule at Christmas, and were over run with plastic toys. We want our kids to appreciate the people, not the presents but how do well tell them firmly yet politely no random toys? Like good, memorable keepsakes/ gifts or books, but there’s no need for plastic toys. I know they won’t respect our wishes but I’m hoping to minimize


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  • Tell them again your views on the plastic crappy toys and ask them to instead invest that money into an account for your children for their futures instead of a plastic gift until such time that the kids are older and their gifts could be less materialistic things.

    Alternatively ask them for things like zoo passes etc that are more about the experience, or get them to give the gift of swimming lessons or a sport/musical instrument lesson.

    If all the asking and alternatives don’t work, simply return the gift back to them and simply say thank you but your children have no need for this toy. It might ruffle their feathers a bit but eventually they will see it is how you want to bring up your children and will hopefully come to respect and appreciate it. – Good luck



  • People feel.guilty about not giving gifts. Maybe ask for donations to a charity.



  • Grandparents like to buy gifts for their grandchildren as they love them and want to be part of their life. Perhaps ask them to buy something your child needs like some clothes or shoes or puzzles. if you think of something which could be useful then ask them as they are wanting to buy something, even a set of plastic cutlery and crockery for your child or a sippy cup. This is practical and useful.



  • I think you need to explain your reasons and maybe tell them your child will need to get rid of one toy for every one they get so you will still have room in your house.



  • It makes it hard when people don’t respect your wishes. All I can suggest is explaining to them the reasons why you have made that request and even let them know that you will donate what they give or something like that



  • If they are not going to respect your wishes maybe write on the invitation that you kid has enough stuff so if any one wants to get a present they will be donated to a charity of your choice or the local hospital kid’s ward, women’s shelter etc


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