I moved to another state over a year ago and still don’t have any friends! I am a stay at home mum. I am friendly, out going and very generous. I am the mum that is prepared for any emergency if you need something I got it in my bag. I talk to so many people and thought that I had friends but I realize its always me initiating and organizing events. I have people over for play dates and have never had someone invite us over in return. I know they have people over as they post pics if their get togethers on social media. Its starting to get to me.



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Posted anonymously, 5th March 2019


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  • Finding mum friends is a bit like dating. People tend to back off if you come on too strong. Unfortunately you can’t make people be friends with you. All the best friendships usually happen by accident.
    Don’t let it get to you that they catch up with other people. They’ve probably known each other for years. Its always harder being the new kid.



  • Oh I am the same, I am always the one that organised things but one day I just gave up.
    I always get chatting to people randomly say at the library for the mums and bubs songs.



  • Try to do things for you that you like and you are more likely to meet people with similar interests. It’s hard when you’re not working but if you haven’t made real friends just make sure you keep going out and being social eventually you’ll find a gem that was worth waiting for. Try and remember it’s not you it’s that you haven’t found your people yet and rest assured you are definitely not alone.



  • I recently joined some community volunteer groups. I figured that way at least I am meeting people and contributing whilst doing so. There are lots of people out there, it’s just a matter of finding people to click with. it does seem easier for some people more than others.



  • I don’t have any close friends either. It’s not the end of the world, you will survive without them. It’s hard moving to a new area and cracking the friend market. Most people already have their ‘groups’ and it’s near impossible to break into them. Keep doing what you’re doing, enjoying your social time and just being you. Good things come to those who wait. But don’t stress if it doesn’t, it’s not the end of tge world



  • I have only a handful of best friends and they are all childhood friends. It’s tough to make friends as an adult because everyone seems to have different priorities. Keep doing what you’re doing and enjoying the short interactions you have with people and hopefully some of those relationships will grow into lasting friendships.



  • I have never had a real friend. I have people I spend time with sometimes but nobody that is my person or people that I could talk to about anything or who just get me. I found some really great mums on an app called Mush. It is sort of like a dating app but to find mum friends. My friendship group have been together for over 2 years now and it is great. Unfortunately a lot of them moved away so we don’t get to actually see each other as often as we used to. I find the hardest part is that most of my mum friends went back to work so their free time is understandably spent with their family. I have been thinking about going back on Mush and trying to find some more friends. I would love to have someone to meet up with regularly who has children of a similar age. That is the dream. I hope you have some luck. I do recommend Mush.



  • finding your tribe can take time and effort but it will come…you are doing all the right things and will find people like you. If you have a hobby then perhaps join a group of like mind eg walking…keep your head held high and keep smiling



  • Hang in there kiddo! Your time will come, you’re doing all the right things by the sound of it but if your not feeling it with those people perhaps try a totally different scene. Get involved in community centres with volunteer work if you have a bit of free time, its good for the soul too, you’ll make real friends there as those people usually are compassionate and don’t have their own agendas as their first priority but will put others’ needs before their own and if they’re anything like the people i’ve met at my communities outings they are genuinely interested and concerned with your well being and friendship too. Good luck you sound lovely and i’m sure you will meet some really good people, because they’re out there, sometimes they’re just a bit harder to find but usually the extra work pays off and you’ll be happier for it. Don’t get disheartened, stay strong and keep smiling.


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