How long does it take for your child to stop crying at childcare?

How long does it take for your child to stop crying at childcare? We are up to week 4 and it starts from the the weekend (goes Tue and Wed) and when going to bed tells me not going and in the mornings is lots of tears….and when I leave the centre, there are lots of tears also.

Posted by Daniella 31.1.2013

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- - KrysGrace said
  - 27 Feb 2016
    1:01 pm
All kids are different. Just keep trying.
- - dannsbuild said
  - 28 Sep 2015
    11:38 pm
There are really interesting comments on this!
- - mom81879 said
  - 19 Sep 2015
    9:11 pm
Sounds a bit extreme. Some kids just don’t like it. My son cried when dropped off, no idea how long for but no other crying
- - Mis Jo said
  - 02 Nov 2014
    7:53 pm
How did you end up going?
- - BellaB said
  - 22 Aug 2014
    1:32 pm
Luckily this was not a big deal for my kids, but I understand some can keep it up for months. Would it be possible for you to spend half an hour there with them one morning so they see it as a place Mummy spends time too?
- - Mis Jo said
  - 21 Aug 2014
    3:53 pm
This can take some time but it will be worth it hopefully!! Good Luck!
- - bridgwll said
  - 29 May 2014
    11:51 am
How is your child going now? Have you thought to ask the staff how long they cry for once you leave?
- - priyachirag said
  - 19 Mar 2014
    12:33 pm
It varies between children. They need to feel secure in the knowledge that you’ll be back for them. Children usually calm down after the parent leaves & are distracted by other activities.
- - Abbey Johnson said
  - 12 Mar 2014
    1:29 pm
I have had three of my five in childcare and have found that the more that you show them that you are concerned the more that they will play on that so if you dont make a big deal and just pull the band aid off quick so to speak and dont hang around when u drop them off {I know its hard } but trust in the teachers they are well trained and dont let your child feel that its a bad thing to be away from you and assure them that you will always be there for them when its pick up time .
- - amanda gregory said
  - 05 Mar 2014
    12:50 pm
My lO has been doing this since he was 10 months old he’s now 2. After you actually leave they will calm down, he normally cries when I leave him with anyone. Has gotten better with me leaving him with my husband. It does pull at your heart strings but they are fine.
- - seachtheteach said
  - 19 Feb 2014
    3:26 pm
I hope things are better now? Lots of good suggestions were made
- - meltingmoment said
  - 27 Oct 2013
    9:34 am
You need to persist. I know it feels awful to see them this way. Mine took a few months before the tears went away.
- - snoopy said
  - 20 Oct 2013
    7:52 am
All children are different and some just need more time to accept the changes and settle in.
- - kjgarner said
  - 13 Oct 2013
    10:48 am
I hope now that your little child has settled into childcare
- - lynzstevo said
  - 28 Aug 2013
    3:17 pm
There’s a good chance they are just anxious about being away from you, and the tears probably stop when you leave. Talk to the carers…