sounds like hshe has got herself in to a routine .

pillow pets now have a light in them , could work

There are night lights that change colour and put out aroamatic smells.. You could try this with lavender or another calming scent

How is she going now?

i hope you found something that works

Hope some of the advice has helped.

Hopefully she got past crying herself to sleep

What did you end up doing?

I hope it gets easier soon

Have any suggestions below helped?

There is a calming bedtime spray you can get that contains lavender, it comes out in a really fine mist-it helps to relax them-even good for adults.

I wish mine self weaned… I want to get rid of them as they are 20 months old now and really don’t need them

try to make the bedtime routine fun! Book time. Relaxing music. night light. stickers on wall. Mobile above cot. Stuff to encourage dream time.

I would try reading a book to her at bed time and the dimming the lights (bed time lamp) with relaxation music softly playing. Siting beside her cot / bed and reassuring her everything is ok mim is here. I wouldn’t pat her as then you have to break thy habit. As she gets better start sitting closer to the door.

Another idea which a lot of people won’t agree with is putting a tv and DVD player in her room. Letting her fall asleep while watching tv

Lucky you got a ‘self weaner’ – we had to give our dummy to the babies at the hospital. After taht we cuddled to sleep & still lay down wiht her most nights