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I have always wanted grandkids and to be able to run and play with them. Having been diagnosed with fibromyalgia I struggle every day. I feel like a failure and everything I have dreamed of has gone.


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  • How are you going now ? Are you able to find balance and peace with what you can towards yourself and in relation to others & grand children ?


  • There are lots of activities you can do with your grandkids that don’t involve physical activity. Things I did with my grandson……painting and drawing. Play doh. Games on the iPad. Watching movies. We cooked. We had fun bath time. We sat and ate and chatted together. We built car tracks and played with cars on them. We built sandcastles and car tracks in the sandpit. We had water fun in the paddling pool. We had target practice with water bombs.
    No need to feel like a failure, just adjust your activities to not feel flat out physical ones :)


  • Yes it can be hard not being able to do what you could with your children and not being able to do it with a grand child. I have found many things to do with my grand daughter, things she can do with me as I make the time to do them whereas her parents are sometimes rushed. Just being able to listen to your grand child, even it is hard to understand what they are saying.


  • I am a grandma and I can’t run but I can read, knit, paint, tell stories and cook and that is what I will do with my grand children. I am sure there are things that you can do too.


  • I agree with the other mums that there are many ways to spend quality time with your grandchildren. Don’t focus on your inabilities, but on your abilities. You’re not a failure, dare to dream within your abilities and much is possible !


  • It is sad that you have you have been physically unable to play with children as you wanted too. I also have problems that slow me down considerably. I play games with my adopted grandchildren. We do art together, play board games and reading to the youngest. I have to accept my disability,which is hard to do at times. Children are more accepting than I but do try have good quality times with them


  • I feel your pain! I am 9n a similar boat, fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis sure does cramp my style. But you know what, running, climbing, swinging, being active aren’t the only ways to enjoy your grandkids. Gardening, board and card games, drawing, painting, movies, books, cooking……there are lots of ways to spend quality time with grandkids without being flat out active


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