Kids like one Grandparent better then another

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“Hi MoMs, I wonder if you could ask your mums if they’ve ever experienced their kids getting quite upset by one set of grandparents visiting and not the one they were hoping for. This happened over the weekend and I had a really hard time getting them to be nice! Luckily I had the Easter Bunny as a bribe. Do you have any ideas on what to do to make this better for next time? It almost got really embarrassing! Thanks so much.” Do your kids like one Grandparent better then another?

Posted by Anon, 2/04/13

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- - Madeline De Leon said
  - 10 Apr 2016
    6:25 pm
I think kids are naturally with preferences. My daughter prefers me than my husband. She prefers nana rather than grandpa.

And you were right to have some bribes. Doesn’t have to be big expensive toys, but maybe some arts and crafts they can spend time doing that the other one “cannot” do. Just generally spending more time, I guess. But that’s just my opinion. =) hope it gets better.
- - mom81879 said
  - 28 Sep 2015
    3:09 pm
My kids see my MIL all the time. Hardly see my parents as they live in another state. Unfortunately, they grew up loving MIL and not wanting to know my parents
- - mrsdew17 said
  - 23 Jul 2015
    12:39 pm
Tough one! Have you asked your kids what it is about the different grandparents that makes one lot seem better/worse? Might be something you didn’t realise.
- - stepmom107932 said
  - 31 Dec 2014
    12:10 pm
I was the exact same as a child. For a very good reason.
i dont even speak to my grandparents that i didnt like as a child. Sit down and ask them why they have a reason why and you just need to figure out what.
kids dont hate for no reason.
- - jadedbutjoyful said
  - 26 May 2014
    2:17 pm
this one is tricky, but kids are kids have to admit there are some rellies i like better than others
- - kjgarner said
  - 31 Oct 2013
    11:17 pm
How is it going now?
- - snoopy said
  - 31 Oct 2013
    9:08 pm
Hope you have found something of use here.
- - meltingmoment said
  - 30 Oct 2013
    9:37 pm
My kids do have a preference at the moment, which is probably because they see one set more often than they see the other.
- - have a happy day said
  - 21 Oct 2013
    8:27 pm
Ask your kids why they prefer one set of Grandparents over the other grandparents and listen to there answer and take it from there.
- - maureen3 said
  - 30 Aug 2013
    1:17 pm
kids will always have preferences , as they grow older things will get better
- - a-edwards said
  - 30 Aug 2013
    7:01 am
Is one more fun than the other!?
- - m.foley said
  - 26 Aug 2013
    10:55 pm
My kids have favourite grandparent. I think it’s normal, not nice for the grandparents who are not the favourite, but I don’t think there is anything you can do about except your kids spending extra time them.
- - a-edwards said
  - 26 Aug 2013
    12:03 pm
Most definitely. They like the one that gives them the most
- - lynzstevo said
  - 26 Aug 2013
    11:01 am
Definitely think its normal, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. As they get older they’ll start to understand that people are different, just teach them to accept people for who they are and treat everybody equally. Its ok to have favourite I think, so log as they’re respectable to everyone
- - missangela said
  - 21 Aug 2013
    9:11 pm
My daughter does to. I wouldn’t worry.