Birthdays!! I threw a big one for my sons 1st and 2nd birthdays. It’s now his 3rd and I’m thinking of leaving the parties until he is in school and has a group of friends. What is everyone’s opinion? We are having a little get together for his bithday but just family and close friends. I guess I just feel I have let him down if he doesn’t have heaps of kids to play with and things to do….


Posted by jellykrystals, 11th February 2014


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  • We only did small family and friends birthday parties til the kids started school. They had cousins of similar ages so they still had kids to play with



  • You’ve set the standards high by going big on 1 and 2, so it makes sense you’re brain is saying you’ve let him down. But you haven’t. You’re still having a lovely family party, a cake, he’ll feel like it’s a celebration and love it. And there are many more birthdays to come in the future to have bigger parties! Enjoy your celebration (no doubt it will still feel like a lot of work even if it’s not ‘big’)



  • If you want to celebrate with a party..go for it! Just have age appropriate games. or just music and bubbles if really young..



  • I think unless they have friends to invite its sort of a waste, waiting for school is probably better.



  • im a big fan of parties! so they only have them once a year! go for it



  • Pretty sure that, at age 3, he won’t have expectations that are too high for his birthday. As long as he gas presents and is made a fuss of throughout the day, he’ll be just fine. Good idea to stop the big parties before he is old to realise and start to expect it every year



  • I gave my kids a big 1st birthday but for my sons 2nd and 3rd we just had a get together with family. When they turn 5 and then maybe 10 I will give them a big party again. If you are feeling bad about it just organise a play date with one or two kids at the park
    Your not doing anything wrong, they won’t grow up expecting one every year (you may not be able to afford it) this way it won’t seem odd



  • Any party is a good party big or small!!



  • I think family parties is enough for kids under 5. I did the same for my son too.



  • I don’t think he will understand the concept of a birthday until he is older. They suggest to have the number of children there equal to the birthday child’s age! So if he’s 3 then having three friends over are plenty for him to play with!



  • Parties before the age of 5 are really more for the adults than they are for the birthday child. Save your $$ until your son starts school. Parties are super super expensive once your start inviting school friends.



  • I really don’t understand the point of having big parties for little ones, they don’t really know what’s going on and they won’t remember it.



  • I think leave it till he is at school. I’m not the biggest fan of having a huge party for babies and toddlers, i have always just done a nice family gathering :) Thats just me though!



  • yeah leave it till his at school making friends it would mean more to him then, then it would now



  • there are some good comments here


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