How do other mums handle birthday invites? – I have promised my son a little birthday party gathering at an indoor play-centre, he’s turning 4. I don’t really know the other Mums that well but have given invites to 3 or 4 other little boys (from his playgroup) to come. Ideally, I would have loved to invite the whole group, but for financial reasons (and Christmas just around the corner) can only really have 10 or 11 kids there (including 2 cousins & 2 close family friends). I was wondering how other mums felt, am feeling a little awkward.

Posted by anon, 05/11/13

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  • Why are you feeling awkward? This sounds like a great little gathering. As long as your son has a good day, you know you were successful. His happiness is all that matters



  • I don’t think you should feel awkward at all. Everyone understands there are lots of demands on our finances and time these days.



  • I think most people understand that you can’t invite every kid to every party – I’ve never been offended if my kids aren’t invited. It’s only a problem if you invite everyone except one poor kid.



  • I was in similar situation but when there only in play group I think it ok to invite a only a few. It becomes tricky when their in school and then your faced with whether you should invite whole class because you don’t want to leave anyone out and most likely see the sane know da abd their parents for many years to come.



  • If you have a set number,you always have to invite kids who invited your kid,& let your child pick who they want to come.



  • Just invite who you can and want to! People understand



  • Just let people know that it’s a small party with limited space and budget. Everyone is in the same boat, they will understand.



  • im sure they will understand!



  • Don’t feel awkward or bad, I think that is more than enough people. If he was really close with his whole group and you all associated more than yeah maybe invite them all, but a few close friends and then definitely cousins and close friends. Maybe you could invite the whole group to have a picnic in the park, cheap and then you don’t have the guilt



  • Keeping it simple, what you have planned is an excellent idea for your little boy. I am sure he and his little friends will enjoy themselves very much.



  • don’t worry about it. honestly you won’t see most of these people again.



  • yeah this is a great question with great answers



  • the cupcake idea sounds good and I’m sure the rest will understand



  • maybe do something like bring in cupcakes to the playgroup that everyone can share in



  • most families understand the cost and if your child only plays with a few then those are the ones to invite. you can always celebrate at playgroup too


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