Hello, my teenager is trying to sort out some labels around sexuality. There is a transgender child in their class (was girl, now boy) and a girl has started dating them. Does that make the girl gay? I’m afraid I can’t help explain it.


Posted anonymously, 15th May 2018


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  • I think it sounds like a normal relationship – boy with girl. It’s a discussion worth having though now that transgender is now openly part of our society, rather than hidden. Let’s get this right though.



  • Perhaps the girlfriend accepts that he identifies as a male and therefore sees him in the same way, if you had to put a label on it I would think that would mean she’s heterosexual. Alternatively, she may just love the person, and not see the gender as any sort of categorising factor of sexual orientation? Interesting, I wouldn’t have even thought to question, even just out of natural curiosity….



  • I would just say they like each other and try to keep the labels out of it.



  • I would just say that when it comes to personal relationships, it’s no one’s business other than the people involved.



  • It is a difficult one but if I understand correctly – if the child identifies as Male and had a relationship with the opposite sex then it would be considered a heterosexual (straight) relationship.



  • It was a girl and is now a boy interested in girls……doesn’t sound homosexual to me.



  • Like everyone else, transgender people have a sexual orientation. Transgender people may be straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or queer. For example, a person who transitions from male to female and is attracted solely to men would typically identify as a straight woman. A person who transitions from female to male and is attracted solely to men would typically identify as a gay man.



  • When the transgender teenager was first a girl, but now a boy who dates a girl, I think this is a hetero sexual relationship.


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