Hi MOM, my best mummy friend recently messaged me to say she doesn’t want our almost two year old girls to have play dates any more. Our kids are very different – mine is quite a bit bigger, more advanced developmentally, and more boisterous so she can tend to seem overpowering with smaller kids, but she is just a normal toddler. Play dates are the only time I can catch up with this friend, so we basically won’t see each other any more. I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel or react, am I wrong to feel upset and offended?

Posted by anon, 11/7/2013

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  • I see this is an old question. Did you get it sorted with your friend.
    You asked if it is wrong to feel upset or offended. I think a feeling is never wrong and good to express. It’s true that friendships can change with children, but it doesn’t mean that you have to drift apart. Any serious friendship is good to fight for and work at. Personally I would have tried to catch up with this friend in the evening (after the kids are gone to bed and the partners could babysit for a hour or two) and try to talk about it.



  • Did you ever find out why she wanted to stop the play dates?



  • People grow apart. That’s life. Easier said then done but maybe try and find some new mummy friends



  • I would feel offended too :( Did you ask her why, she no longer wants to have play dates?



  • I would be asking her a bit more, messaging you with this is a bit rude good luck



  • How did this turn out? Problem get resolved?



  • Did you find out why she didn’t want them to have play dates any more?



  • I wouldn’t worry about it – maybe suggest that you go out for coffee sometime instead



  • how did it work out?



  • How is everything between you now?



  • How did it go with talking to her if you did so?



  • You do need to find out why, just call and try and work things out



  • Might want to call her up and ask her why?



  • I would be keen in finding out why she no longer wants to have the play dates.



  • Maybe you could say that you would still like to catch up in the future because you really enjoy her company.


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