Hello!

My second bub is due in November and I’m uncertain whether I want to try breastfeeding again. With my first child I really struggled and had all sorts of issues, the least of which was attachment. As a first time mum I kind of just went along with what the midwives were advising me, which was of course to persevere and as long as you feed bub when she wants she’ll be fine. But 6 weeks in she was still way under her birth weight and was so unhappy. The moment we started comp feeding, she put on 350g in a week and after that we switched to formula. She was the happiest baby after that and still is! I had no idea at the time I was starving my child. I’m really struggling with that at the moment and wonder whether it’s worth it? Should I try with breastfeeding again? I understand pros and cons of both options, but if any other mums have had similar issues I’d love to hear your views.

Posted by anon, 1/8/13

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  • When it wasn’t successful with your first child, doesn’t mean it will be unsuccessful with your second child. However when you’re fearful and stressed about it, it’ll most likely impact your ability to breast feed. Try to be relaxed about it and you could consider asking help from a lactation consultant


  • i had feeding issues with both my kids. i tried breastfeeding again with the second, and i was really disappointed that i was having the same issue, however i knew not to stress myself about it like i did the first time, So i would give it a try this time, but be prepared to just let it go.


  • Personally I’d try again, every experience is different. you are the one that has to be comfortable with the decision though.


  • Yes try again definitely. With my first had so much milk I would choke him so he got tummy aches , colic & reflux. Remember going to CAFHS back then weekly in tears for 10 weeks as he screamed day & night. Finally put him on bottle which help him a little but I felt I failed as a mum. 2nd child breastfed for 7 months was easier but had a few issues first up but felt better & more relaxed. 3rd child breastfed for 12 months with no issues at all. All kids are different & will feed different. All you can do is try May work out this time. Good luck


  • I’d start at least and breastfeed for as long as possible, even if it’s just a few weeks. The nutritional and health benefits are immense. Studies have even shown just a small amount of colostrum is beneficial. But of course follow your instincts and do what is best for you and your bub. Second time round is easier and you might find your supply is greater too. You could also try supplementing with formula from the start for piece of mind too. All the best!


  • I would definitely recommend you try and breastfeed again, every baby is different but having said this people do underestimate how difficult breastfeeding can actually be. The reason why midwives urge you to persevere is because it is simply the best for baby, nutritionally and also in terms of strengthening their developing immune system. Nothing protects your baby better than breast milk, even if you decide to pump and bottle feed that would be better than not trying at all. Good luck!


  • I hope it works for you:)


  • I had a similar situation with my first, and tried breastfeeding my second and third babies too. Each baby is so different and I had differing levels of success with each of them. But in the end I was happy to try again and felt more confident with each bub.


  • I hope that you tried as it is a very enjoyable expaerience


  • would you wanna try alternating them?


  • I have had 5 children I tried BF with the first 2 then just bottled the 3rd but then I felt more confident and at ease so I BF the 4th and 5th. So it reallly comes down to how you feel about it …


  • Did you try breast feeding again?


  • how did you go with breastfeeding?


  • How did it go with breast feeding?


  • I had lots of issues too but I would try again. I think with the experience you have you will know and can try mix feeding or expressing. Hope everything went well :)


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