I am not a mom but i am a god mom and auntie. But heres the thing my nephews are almost 11 and almost 3 and ever sense the youngest was born my sister has been trying to force the 11 year old to play with the 3 year old. What i mean by force is she will punish him if he doesn’t play with his brother. She tells him also that if he doesn’t play with him his brother is going to grow up thinking his brother doesn’t like him. I think this is wrong i always have they are 8 years apart she can not possibly think she is going to get them to spend all this time together. The more she forces it it seems the more he doesn’t want to do it. I always try and say like little comments about it but then I guess I’m like im not a mom what do i know if you were in my position what would you do

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Posted by mom360147, 13th March 2019

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  • You can’t force kids to do anything they don’t want to do. I’d try and think of an activity they both like doing and encourage them to do that together – maybe squirting water guns, kicking a ball etc

  • I don’t think you can force these things too much. They will work out how much time they want to spend together.

  • family is family and they need to know that you should want to spend time with siblings. many brothers and sisters are forced to play together and it isn’t a big deal. they need to learn there is things they may want to do and people they don’t want to play with but they have to anyway. my kids have 5 years apart and i tell them to play together – they grumble at first but then they get over it and spend time together. it isn’t your place to say anything.

  • Mmmmm, This is a tough one. I don’t believe that you can force relationships. However you can encourage supporting each other and having each other’s backs. As the auntie, there isn’t really much you can do.

  • I don’t think she can force them to play together however they are siblings and should play together sometimes. The age difference shouldn’t matter as they can draw or play outside together.

  • That age differences is a lot and they would not have the same ideas either. Yes they should have some time together but not be forced to play with each other. I only have 13 months with my younger sister and in our teens my mother forced her to take me with her as I was not very sociable. This has led to us not being able to stand each others. Had a better relationship with my younger siblings as it was not forced.

  • I can see lots of issues arising if she continues. There’s a huge age gap, they’re not going to be interested or capable of sharing interests. With my kids, who are only 3 years apart, I would encourage interaction. I used to involve myself and join in to show them they can have fun together. But I never forced it

  • I don’t believe that forcing siblings with an age difference like that is a good idea. If anything I think it could damage any relationship developing. It can also cause the 11 year to feel resentment toward the younger sibling. From your standpoint being the auntie there isn’t a lot you can do.

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