How do I teach my kids stranger danger without making them think that all people are dangerous?


Posted anonymously, 20th March 2014


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  • All people are dangerous if they are strangers



  • If you don’t know them don’t talk to them if mum and dad don’t talk to them you don’t talk to them. never talk to adults who you don’t remember. only police are safe to talk to if you are lost or scared.



  • My parents never spoke to me about stranger danger. So when I was 9 and riding my bike with a friend, a man in a care approached us asking for directions. We thought we were doing the right thing and walked over to the car and then he said a few things (i will not repeat them) and then exposed himself. I told my parents, we then went to the police station to try and identify him. We identified him and he had a record, RAPE! My friend and I were very lucky, and were very careful after this. I made sure my kids understood about stranger danger, do not talk to them, do not aproach the care and if someone grabs you, just drop straight to the ground and kick and scream. It is very sad that we have to prepare our children for what could happen to them, why are there such horrible people out there?



  • Most schools will also give classes on stranger danger and it is hard to know when it comes down to it if they were in the situation would they know what to do when faced with it.



  • I always told my kids that people Mummy and Daddy know are not strangers. You must set up rules like when they are outside of the house at the park, at the beach if someone wants to talk to them to tell them to says.. Mum and Dad are over there and to point. I also taught my kids that if someone picked you up you must say loudly “YOU ARE NOT MY MUM/DAD PUT ME DOWN.” I let them roam a little but not far and I always had them in my sight. Unfortunately strangers can be anyone even a family friend and relative. This conversation is always on going even into teenage years.



  • just explain there are bad people in the world and not to trust people who they don’t know and to even be wary of people they do know,



  • It’s ok to teach kids to just consort with people that they know. Enforce the rule that their friends are people who Mummy and Daddy know, and if this isn’t the case then they need to stay away



  • This is so important. I am going to teach my child not to talk to any strangers unless we are with her. I would rather her fear strangers than be open to anyone. It may sound fear driven but there are too many weirdos out there these days!



  • You need to warn your child of stranger danger, eg. not to approach cars even if it is a friend’s parent unless you have personally given your child permission, and to run the opposite way to the way the car is travelling.
    There are some strange people out there .



  • i think you can get the police to teach it to them



  • there are some good comments here



  • Be as honest as you can – say that there are people out there that are bad and can harm them, so to be sure, don’t ever go with strangers, even if they need your help. It is only ok to talk to strangers if there’s an adult around that they know.



  • A little fear wont go astray, it is important that you talk to your kids about the potential dangers some people can be. Obviously don’t go into details, just stick to ‘don’t talk to people if mum, dad or a known adult is not with you, if someone asks them for help go and get an adult, never take anything from a stranger, don’t let anyone touch you,’ it’s hard but we have to prepare our kids for the big bad world



  • Just play it by ear, I tell my kids there are some bad people in the world and you don’t get in a car with a stranger. You don’t go with someone you don’t know. Just listen to what they say and what questions they want answers to and go from there.



  • Very important , never can be sure. Keep your children close and gradually educate them. sometimes not even safe with family. Best to have a few people around at any time.


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