My teenager is not getting up in the mornings to go to school. He has his alarm set, we wake him up and his friend comes over to pick him up. But so far this year he has had more days off than what he has been to school. He is a good kid and is at the top of all his classes but he just doesn’t see the relevance in going to school because he isn’t learning anything. Any ideas on how to get him motivated?


Posted anonymously, 10th March 2019

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  • People seem to think you’ll get into trouble if your child misses a lot of school. I have a niece, on my partners side, who’s kids miss school all the time. Her eldest son didn’t finish primary school and is practically illiterate. Her second youngest son only goes to school when there is a subject he’s interested in. No one seems to care! It can be really hard to encourage a teenagers interest in much of anything let alone school

  • Missing so many days of school is not ok. Maybe you could try to understand better in which subjects he gets bored and go and talk to those teachers to see if they can give him some different projects to keep him motivated and curious. But I think it would be best to do something about it as soon as possible.

  • Having days off school without good reason could land him in a bit of trouble with the education dept. I’d be questioning if the reason he’s given you for not wanting to attend is the real reason or if there is some other reason. You could try talking to the head teacher or principal or school counsellor without his knowledge to see what his attitude is when he does attend. They may have some suggestions for you. You could also ask if they have noticed any change in him and if there has been, find out when that change took place and if it coincided with any particular event in his life.

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