Hello!

I think my BF cheated- what should I do? Ok I have just recently found out my bf of 5 years, cheated on me 2 years ago with someone I thought was a friend, they just mucked around and kissed but I consider this cheating. I’m too scared to confront my bf about. It’s killing me to ask him as we also have a 4 month old son. I don’t have many close friends but I need advice how to go about this. I know I need to confront him. But what to do if it’s true?

Posted by anon, 21/09/13

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  • Very personal decision. I wouldn’t stay with him personally, worse it was with a good friend. Confront and go from there. Sending big hugs!


  • There is always to sides to a story-check the facts. Sit down have an open conversation with him and find out the reasoning behind it. Then weigh up the pros and cons of your relationship before you take the next step. Trust is a very hard thing to get back.


  • First thing I suggest you do is talk to him. You can’t make good decisions until you have all the facts in front of you


  • I’d love to know whether you confronted him and how it turned out – well I hope.


  • Hope things turned out ok for you no matter what you decided to do.


  • Confront him for sure, hear his side of things, let him explain. Then you decide if you stay and work through it or if you pack up and leave.


  • I really hope this worked out okay for you!


  • You need to confront him and found out why, it is then up to you if you can trust him again. Did the information come from someone you trust or could it be exaggerated.
    If you don’t want to talk, maybe write to him and let him know how you are feeling.

    Bottling it up will not help.


  • it will eat away at you if you don’t get it off your chest. Either speak to him about it, let it go and move on, or speak to a counsellor just so you can get the feelings and emotions off your chest. good luck


  • talk to him. approach him from a calm point of view and take your time.


  • If you dont ask it will gnaw away at you and make things worse in the long run


  • I would ask him about it and ask if it has happened with anyone else. you cant be treated like a fool


  • i think it best to talk about it with him and how you feel about it, if he lies about it and doesn’t admit it will be more worse then actually holding it in yourself for years to come


  • You need to talk about this with him. If he denies it and lies, I wouldn’t be able to trust him again.


  • tell your boyfriend about it, i do also think its cheating


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