We have a two bedroom place, and both our boys share a room (6 months and 3 years). In another month we will move to a bigger place where they can have their own room. Thing is, we struggle and struggle every night getting them down. The baby is a light sleeper and if he goes down first, when his brother comes in, baby always wakes up and does not go back to sleep (because his big brother never goes down gently, always up and down etc.) Our three year old when he slept alone would go down in minutes but now he’s all up the creek ! I have tried keeping the older one up all day so he drops off easily but he is a wreck come 4pm. I really want the baby to have a regular bed time and worry about giving him bad habits – though he goes down well, at least for now. Should we separate them when we move? Or do it before? My three year old though suffering, says he can’t get to sleep because he is lonely and missing his brother, but when he’s in there they just cry…. Will it work better when they are a bit older? Oh boy, any advice people could share would be great. Thanks in advance!!


Posted by bhbop, 2nd April 2014


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  • Separate when they move. Make your 3 year olds room really ‘cool’ so it’s somewhere he wants to be snfmd wants to have to himself. Goodluck let us know how you go



  • ALWAYS separate if possible! So much easier. Do it when you move.



  • seperate them when you move … new house and make it exciting for your older son that he has a new room. kids quickly adjust and it will be better for you



  • New house new rules. Make a big deal about the older one’s room. Have a routine bed-time. Dinner all done, Say 7-7:30pm bathed and ready for a story in his own room. I sent my little one to bed after a small cup of warmed milk as there is advantages. A cup of warm milk or a milk-based drink is traditionally used for sleep induction. A small night light away from the child’s reach helps with anexiety. Baby can sit up with the other parent until you settle the older one. This could be cuddle time or last bottle for the night. If baby is not sleeping through a couple of spoons full of rice cereal fill his tummy. Darken the room, lower all noises, no stimulating just quiet time OR that parent puts Bub to bed too. Good luck and enjoy your boys.



  • I have had this issue with my niece and daughter who are both 4 years old…my solution was letting one fall asleep on the couch then moving them until they out grew it. Doing this took so much less time for them both to fall asleep then listening to them giggle/play and or cry/fight. Also if your oldest doesn’t want a separate room is most likely just doesn’t want to go to bed I bet when you move if you separate them after a couple weeks he will be fine, my only concern about waiting is its going to be a new place and if you wait to separate them he might get afraid to be in there alone…but if you separate them now he could get use to having his own room then when you move hes all ready for a new room could even try a new bed as well if he starts getting afraid to sleep in there alone.



  • I’d wait for the new place, but be prepared for a little time for adjustment. It may be better to let them share for a week or so and separate. a night light is a good idea, and I like the fishtank idea as well.



  • I can relate as I am trying to remove a 4yr old from our bed to a room with a her sister but keep waking up to find her back with us. My darling son is constantly tired as he is scared to go to sleep so we have a teddy and night lights. I’ve now put a small quiet fishtank in his room so there is some soothing sounds and a light for him. We also have the two bedroom issue and we are moving too thank goodness! Maybe when he gets the new room if he helps to decorate it in an awesome way so that he wants to be in there more.



  • when you get into your new house give them their own rooms make sure your older child has a teddy of some thing like this and a night light I got really pretty dragons on balls they take batteries and change color .. they picked them so get something he likes and changing color ones they fall asleep watching the changing of colors and just remember at first it’s a change for all but stick to your guns and it will soon settle



  • That’s a tough one! You are probably better to wait until into your new place and maybe because it’s new and unfamiliar things might be different. Has your son got a teddy or some type of comforter as like a security object? Sometimes something as simple as that can bring comfort. Good luck :)



  • I would wait until you move, the thrill of having their own room might be what they need


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