My daughter is getting married very soon and I’m in a bit of a tizz. Do the same rules apply as they did decades ago when I got married? E.g something borrowed, something blue, something old and something new? I’m not sure how to go about it, it’s our 1st wedding in the family. Does anyone have any advice for me?


Posted by deborah_osborne, 9th September 2018


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  • It’s certainly not as common, but fun to follow!!
    I’m generally one of the only people to also do the horseshoe these days, I love it!!



  • I am Asian so I don’t follow something borrowed rules.

    We paid for everything ourselves but my parents paid for my dresses and the bridesmaid dresses and jewelry.



  • These days are so different.My daughter got married back in March 2018, and i did do the something blue something borrowed, something new etc but it up to the individual just ask your daughter. the wedding dress is the new , if you get a garter you can get a blue, she can borrow a piece of jewellery from you and depending how old that piece is that can be the something old.



  • Its completely up to the bride – I got married 7 years ago and had all the borrowed/blue/old/new



  • Every wedding I’ve been to has had that tradition. It’s just a fun tradition. Friend of mine had her pop as something old her daughter as something new her knickers were blue and she borrowed her mums Pearl’s.



  • It all depends on how much your daughter values tradition, rules and etiquette. You can hold on to tradition or totally break free from it. Talk to your daughter and your future son in law I would say.



  • The most important thing with a wedding is to make and stick to a budget.



  • I think the something borrowed etc tradition is lovely. It doesn’t mean you have to go over the top. Just sentimental tokens add a bit of personal sentiment



  • The delightful thing now is traditions can be kept or not used for weddings. It really does come down to personal preference. I kept some and swept others away, very much personalised.



  • I think there are any rules these days. Everyone does what is right for them at the time



  • Both my eldest daughter ad my Daughter in Law did. I made my Daughter a blue garter borrowed my mother’s wedding ring (which was borrowed and old) and the wedding dress was new. Even just a small blue ribbon on the front of the bra or inside the dress. My Daughter in law did this and borrowed my Daughters necklace from her wedding. She had a second hand dress (old) and new shoes. Borrow jewellery (necklace or ring). Depends on the bride. Some want to follow tradition and some don’t.



  • Honestly just ask your daughter on how she and her partner wants the wedding.
    Personally I love the whole, something borrowed, blue and new. Did it for my wedding last year when I was 26.



  • It depends how your daughter fees about it – I don’t think rules are hard and fast these days.



  • It’s your daughters big day so forget traditions and find out what she wants to do. She can be as original or as traditional as she likes, it’s totally up to her and her hubby to be



  • Talk to your daughter & ask her what she wants for her big day.
    Being mother of the bride can be so daunting because you want the day to be just perfect, & I’m sure it will be.
    Personally, I would want to keep the traditions.
    It is something that can be passed on from generation to generation.
    But it is your daughters day & it is up to her.
    Talk to her & start a wedding planner together.
    Congratulations & good luck.


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