I have a 3 1/2 yr old, who is Toilet Training resistant, we have read all the available information and tried every technique to no avail, and he started showing interest in the toilet when I was heavily pregnant with our second child. As expected he regressed when the baby arrived, we have done charts & stickers and big goals/rewards, (our 2nd child is now 1yr old) we have backed off completely at home and care, but he does a poo in his pull up and then cries because he wants to do it in the toilet.
I can’t convince him it’s too late, if we let him sit on the toilet, he’s then convinced he’s done it on the toilet and deserves a reward (thus ensues more tears), other times he tells me he wants to do a poo and proceeds to sit on the toilet for anywhere up to 20 mins with no poo but expects to be rewarded, again tears, it has just turned into a cycle of tears and frustrations for all of us, it doesn’t make any difference if he wears a pull up or undies, he just goes where he is.
We have had the occasional success but once he receives a reward (Kinda Surprise) he doesn’t care about it again for a couple of days/weeks. The most frustrating thing is I know he can do the whole lot on his own, which was shown to me recently when we were going out, I asked if he would like to have a try before we leave, I found him pants down on the toilet doing a wee, all on his own, a couple of days later the same motivation has no effect, he just says “No thanks mummy”.
I am seriously at my wits end, we are trying very hard to be calm and nonchalant about it all, so not to push him back further, but a year of this has pushed me to my limit, has anyone had the same, what in the heck did you do, we have 6 months till Kindergarden.
Posted anonymously, 5th August 2014