My 6 almost 7 yr old is lying, all of the time. About little things and big things and even when we catch her out she just says she inst lying but hubby and i know she is.
How should we deal with this?
It makes me so angry and upset i cant think of what to do?
any help please???


Posted by stepmom107932, 8th December 2014


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  • I wouldn’t be too concerned, it fits the developmental age. I think a gentle approach where you don’t necessarily have a consequence but also try not to feed it a lot of attention is best.
    This is quite an interesting read. https://theconversation.com/why-do-kids-lie-and-is-it-normal-98948



  • Sometimes they don’t see it as lying but rather believe what they want. Try and work out what they might be missing?



  • Its a bit of a hard one, maybe just keep reinforcing that the truth is important



  • I am having this problem with my 8 year old son. It’s come to the point where I never know when he’s telling the truth or not. Some good advice here ladies. Thanks.



  • Funnily enough we got a book from the library called the cocky who cried dingo,
    It is basically an aussie animal version of the boy who cried wolf and it must of made her think about what happens when you lie coz she stopped lying after that



  • Hello! My older daughter is fairly similar, and here’s something that’s worked for me. I started spending one-on-one time with her at least once a day, preferably for 5-10 minutes. This can be reading, or chatting, or doing whatever she wants to do. This might sound a little left of field, but it works. It brought us much closer together, which she loved, and because we were closer she tried harder to please me. She just became easier to live with in all sorts of ways. I really recommend you give it shot. Good luck!



  • Don’t get too concerned. I recall my daughter doing similar things at that age. It’s a phase. Nonetheless, don’t let it go ignored. You need to make it clear that lying is not good and comes with consequences. I’d give ‘time out’ or ‘no TV’ or something as punishment. I think it’s also important to highlight that if you keep lying, people stop trusting and believing you. The old ‘boy who cried wolf’ story is a great little lesson.



  • i try to explain that lying is bad and that my child should feel confident to come and tell me about anything. also i don’t freak out, if i am told something like “the boy was mean so i called him a name” i just try to find out the situation and guide and try to correct the attitude or behaviour. most children will lie because they don’t want to get in trouble and they also know that they aren’t supposed to lie but they fear that the consequence or negative judgement is worth lying, to avoid. reward honesty and encourage it. if you commit an honest act, explain this to the child and explain that it is better to be honest and show him your examples! when a child lies to you, they are not trying to hurt you or be bad but just don’t want the consequence. i have just been dealing with this situation too. i hope that this is helpful and i look forward to seeing how other people deal with this. my friend told me that she gets her children the things that they want just so she can take it from them when they are naughty lol

    good luck!


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